Sometimes, something or someone will say or do something that just makes me furious. I'll get extremely pissed off and i'm not sure what to do about it. It's getting worse, and I don't want to go to anger-management classes.
2006-09-03 13:14:00 · 17 answers · asked by General X 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Instead of controlling it...for now focus on finding an outlet for it. Get a hanging boxing bag and gloves...and box that bag till you can box no mo'.
2006-09-03 13:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tap into the connection between you and your Higher Power. You may do this by meditation or more simply getting away from the scene and going somewhere to regroup. Anger is the IMMEDIATE reaction to being PO'd but it usually causes more problems.
I can't speak on anger management because I have never attended though I thought Ineeded to. I started praying more to my HP and attending a church that does not shove religion down my throat and stopped listening to the radio so much and returned to music allowing me to wok out some ways that I have been and why.
Peace...and I mean that literally
2006-09-03 13:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have these problems and I wish I would have taken anger management classes. You say you don't want to hear it but thats the only thing right now. or you can learn the hard way like me , i went to jail for 2 days for getting angry to the point where I hit someone and got battery charges against me , so my advice to you is take the classes
2016-03-17 07:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the time whatever happens close your eye's count to ten then backwards to zero. Meditation at some point in your day to release the feelings of rage helps.
Another good way to release frustrations is (and I know this'll sound wierd but it does make you feel better) Dig a small hole in the ground, it can be in your backyard but somewhere isolated is best, then get down and lean in towards the hole and yell or speak all of your woes and frustrations, then fill in the whole knowing your greivences have been laid to rest.
Doing this at the beach just above the waterline while the tide is out is good, then sit back and watch as the water washes them all away as the tide comes in.
This may all sound like a bunch of crap to you but believe me it does ease the soul.
2006-09-03 13:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you recognize your problem and want to do something about it is comendable! I'm sure that instead of "classes", you could do one-on-one sessions with a counselor.
Note: Most large companies have some type of program for this type of thing so that there is no - or minimal cost. It also sounds like something that would be covered under most medical plans.
Good Luck!
2006-09-03 15:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and I don't go to anger management classes, but I am not against the idea of going if I found one.
I'm just like you - people get me very angry by what they say and do. OK, I'm not going to tell you anger is bad. I don't think anger is bad - it's an emotion and we all have a right to our feelings. The problem is what to do with your emotion (anger) and it's my problem too.
OK, here goes. Sometimes, it helps me just to think about it - to have a fantasy of revenge (and not actually take revenge). Another thing that helps sometimes is to write it down - the whole situation and also to tell the situation to another person (preferably a person who will take your side and not make you angry by taking the other person's side). Finally, sometimes, I just make up my mind to not get angry about it - to sort of let it go and to tell myself it's just not worth my time and energy - just let it be or ignore it.
I don't know if this helps you - believe me, I know this problem very well - I have been angry all my life and it really is a hard thing to cope with, but we have to try. However, don't beat yourself up about being angry - as I said before, it's ok to feel the emotion, just we have to figure out how to behave when we feel this way so it doesn't do us damage.
Good luck!
2006-09-04 00:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, and I know exactly where you are coming from. I too, choose to look elsewhere than A.M. I dont want some Mr. Rogers dude telling me to be calm. So I came up with my own solution... Instead of hitting someone or verbally hurting someone, I choose to yell outloud in a public place... I mean LOUD or if you are at home without anyone else hit something or break something. I have learned to love the sound of breaking noises. It is awesome and atleast you dont hurt anyone in the process.
2006-09-03 13:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not implying that you fit the profile that I'm about to layout for you, but I find this interesting, so I'm going to share it.
I noticed that guys who hit their wives and girlfriends often claim that they "can't control themselves" because they're so angry.
Take that same guy and put him in a room with a 6' 7", 250lbs football player and I bet he'll have no problem controlling himself.
Really, I don't buy this crap about "oh, I just can't control my actions!" B.S.
You don't seem to have this problem, fortunately. Perhaps you should take up a contact sport of some kind to vent you frustrations in a healthy manner?
Nicholas
http://www.iConfessional.com
2006-09-03 13:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
A little atitude adjustment is needed. What John Prine calls "An Illegal Smile"
Actually, I saw my doc about the same thing and he prescribed a antidepressant.
But a little THC wouldn't hurt.
2006-09-03 13:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by axis mentis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the nearest Borders or Barnes and Noble and go to the self-help section. You'll be amazed at the books you might find to help you take care of your own problem. If however you find that no attempts you make yourself are working, consult a professional.
2006-09-03 13:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by avon_princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋