She's had a lot of stress lately. The guy shes was like in love with died from cancer and its been really traumatic for her. Shes had other issues throughout the summer too, and way to much stress for someone her age. She just told me shes been cutting her leg with a knife every day that past 2 weeks. She said part of the reason she does is because of all the stress she's had the past few months. She also said that when she harms herself, it makes her feel better because causing herself pain makes her feel better. She said that when shes cutting it feels good but afterwards it hurts, but she does it again anyway. She also said she's been trying to stop but she can't.
So far her boyfriend and I are the only ones who know about this. She is begging us not to tell anyone else and says we're the only ones she trusts to tell. She said she was afraid to tell us before this because she thought we would tell her parents or the counselers. I dont really know what to do..... someone help!!!!
2006-09-03 12:57:28 · 14 answers · asked by Megan J 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You must do the right thing and tell her parents immediately. This is very serious. She does this because she cannot cope. She needs real medical/psychological attention asap. If you are really her friend and you are really concerned for her and love her you will tell her parents and make sure she gets help. You cannot help her, she needs a professional. Act right away!
2006-09-03 13:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Island Queen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD. THIS LADY NEEDS HELP. Look, when I first saw just your question, I thought, masochist. But, wow, get her to a psychiatrist. What you should probably do, is ask her if she wants to see a movie and get dinner with you. During the movie and stuff just act like it's normal. Nothings going on, nothings going to happen, and your having fun at the movies. When you get to dinner though, you order your food, and when it's that time when your almost done, but your talking a lot, that's when you wait for that second of silence when you each take a bite, unless your in the middle of a conversation, and that's when you start the subject. You don't want to just suddenly go into a depressed expression, just begin to talk about it casually. But, I'm not sure if this is really good advice, considering I don't know what she's like and such. But, I'm just trying to help. Hope This Helps!
2016-03-26 21:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold it -- you said the guy she was in love with died from cancer - but in the 2nd paragraph her Boyfriend (is this the same one from Paragraph 1?) knows about this -- so how can he have died?
She is harming herself and SHE needs help -- so tell her Parents immediately (or have your parents call her parents to TALK about this self-harming behavior). There are many ways to get help -- and she may need to be hospitalized for a time to begin treatment for these symptoms of distress.
2006-09-03 13:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a close friend of mine pass away at the age of 16, he was also an ex of mine. He used to cut himself, and started doing it over a girl and depression. He then got bored cutting himself eventually and went more drastic. He tried hanging himself even! Only a couple close friends, including me knew about it. We were very scared for him, but were also told he was just doing it for "attention" because usually if they are serious about trying to kill themselves, they would find a way to actually do it. We weren't sure what to think, because this went on for a couple of years. But eventually, things caught up with him, and he shot himself in the head. I still think about him everyday for the past 5 years and I wish I would have done something to help him-like TELL SOMEONE!! She might be mad at u for now about saying something, but if you don't, you could end up losing your friend. I hope this helped you.
2006-09-03 13:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Megan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to cut when I was deep in depression. And now I'm studying psychology and trying to help people with the same problems. I understand where she's coming from. If you are a good friend of hers, you should comfort her and help her get over the past. Take her out for ice cream, go to the movies, go to the mall and assure her that she's loved and there's no reason for her to feel so bad.
Give her a scrapbook of her and her friends or with you and ask her to promise to look at it before she thinks of cutting herself again. Tell her that there's no reason for her to hurt herself. She's not the one at fault and she needs to know that.
2006-09-03 13:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Katt Attack 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are some secrets that a real friend does not keep. This is one of them.
This is a very serious and possibly fatal problem. You need to tell someone right away. Take her with you to see either her parents or the school counselor. The school counselor will have to tell her parents. She might be mad at you but at least she will be ALIVE to be mad. After she gets the help she needs, she will understand that you helped save her life.
Your friend is in desparate need of help right away. PLEASE, I BEG YOU!!! DO NOT KEEP THIS SECRET.
2006-09-03 13:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by nobadkids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I was a teenager in the late 80's, very early 90s..
we did not have this problem, "cutters" were not the norm, kids just did not do it..
I wonder how this came to be a "cool" or "popular" plea for attention..
yes , it is a plea for attention..
You need to tell her parents, she needs counseling and a harsh reality check..
2006-09-03 13:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, I can identify with your feeling of being a friend who doesn't want to lose her friendship or seeing her harming herself...
It is time to let her know that(with tears and a lot of emotion) that you love her as much as she love her boyfriend, and you are feeling stabbing pain in seeing her hurting herself...encouraging her to hang out with people more(may be doing volunteer works that can get her to see how fortunate she is having things that she possess NOW), continue encouraging her to express how she feel, encouraging her to join club to talk to people who is having the similar problems...hopefully, you guys will keep her from addicted from hurting herself, using a lot of positive regard to change her mood(forcefully get her to laugh/yell/mock...etc)
Yes...there should be teenhotline outthere waiting to listen to solve her emotional trauma. But yeah...eventually, if things get out of hand...a professional from school/church should be able to help.
2006-09-03 13:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Pete 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is crying out for help.
You could keep this a secret and it will not help her,
and maybe she will end up in the hospital or worse.
She needs to get help and keep busy.
2006-09-03 13:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Scooby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to a therapist for counseling. Freinds don't let freinds cut.
2006-09-03 13:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by Wayne S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋