2006-09-03 12:50:46 · 41 answers · asked by tess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah!! i'd slap him in the face...
2006-09-03 12:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by ~bongocheeks~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would ask him about it because if he got away with it for that long, who says he hasn't done it again. Another way of looking at it though is how reliable is the source where you found out he cheated? If it is coming from a "friend" why didn't they tell you sooner, and if it come from the person themself, what got her so mad that after 15 years she decided to come clean? I think it is something that should be discussed, but if it was a 1 time only thing, definately not something worth ruining 18 years over, especially since it has been that long ago.
2006-09-03 12:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by crushedlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although i dont agree with infedelity at all in a marriage.. if he cheated on me 15 years ago.. id have to do alot of soul searching.. because alot depends on different things..
1. how long did he cheat, was it a one time deal or an actual affair , and if so how long did the affair last..
2. How have the last 15 years of marriage been, have they been 15 years of misery or have i had a happy marriage with him ..
3 . Am i sure that it was just the one time or was this just one of many that i need to search to find out if there have been more that i dont know about..
I would confront my husband.. i would let him know that i know, but depending if it was a one time thing , he screwed up, and tried to make up for his screw up .. and it never happened again, i wouldnt divorce him.. 18 years is alot to throw away on a one time deal that happened years ago..but it all depends on how u view ur marriage.. how happy u've been , ect on how u want to respond to this..
2006-09-03 13:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap confront him with it let him know that you know and he hasnt gotten away with. Bet he thought he had a clean get away. So from now on you pay more attention and if anything seems wrong you look into. call a few people who you think might know something dont tell them just be talking to see if you can get some info. Sorry you had to go threw this hope you are feeling okay even if it was a long time ago that Sh*t still hurts i know.
2006-09-03 13:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes l think l would have to. Otherwise it is something that would play on your mind and destroy any chance of ever having a normal relationship. I know it was a long time ago but for me if there is no trust there is no relationship.I am sure different people have different views on things like this but l am a big believer in trust being the best way always.
2006-09-03 13:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who would have told you this, after 15 years? Make sure it's a reliable source.If he has proved himself worthy in the past 15 years, I would have a hard time confronting him with it now.
2006-09-03 13:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it was over 15 years ago. Just let it go, not unless there is a pattern of cheating going on.
2006-09-03 12:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would definitely like to know why he did it. Also, to me, cheating after only 3 years of marriage is more difficult to accept or understand than, for example, cheating during the middle-age crisis.
2006-09-03 12:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Toothfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got that right! I would call him on the carpet and get his explanation as to how he could live a lie for 15 years, and not have a guilty conscience about it. To me, that is just not acceptable.....to have an affair 15 years ago, and just go right on like nothing happened.....NO, he would give me an explanation!!!
2006-09-03 12:56:47 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would. Because even if he has forgotten, you never will. And the knowledge of what he did will grow inside of you until you burst. Im not saying you have to bombard him with questions. I think a simple why might make you feel better. But never ask a question that youre not prepared to hear the answer to.
2006-09-03 12:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is still doing it then confront him if not let it be in the past and it's been there for 15 years why bring it up now unless there is a child involved.
2006-09-03 12:56:01 · answer #11 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋