2006-09-03 12:44:08 · 15 answers · asked by bolters37 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
RUN-NOW !!!!! they just suck the lifeblood out of u and cause u endless emotional drama and emotional trauma. if they commit suicide,u will carry that memory till the day u die .marry someone mentally stable,who will be a good partner and a good parent.otherwise,u will be the emotional and physical caretaker for this person.u will sacrifice ur life and happiness to help them.u have to "walk on eggshells"to avoid upsetting them,the whole family starts to revolve around them,their needs,and i cant tell u enough how bad the suicide thing is.no matter how happily u rebuild ur life after that person is gone,NOT A DAY WILL GO BY THAT U DONT REMEMBER HOW THE DEPRESSED PERSON DIED.
2006-09-03 12:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An article in Psychology Today states that 90% of marriages with one partner being Bipolar (the new term for Manic-Depressive) ends end divorce.
I have struggled with Bipolar illness for ten years and it has dramatically effected my relationships (finances, and career). When I become close to a woman, I increasingly become an emotional burden on them. I now choose to stay single, even though most of my peers are married. However, I have now recently been given a good medication that is making me stable, perhaps the first time in my life.
Bipolar is a serious illness, but it varies in its manifestations. For example, I have Bipolar II, which lacks total manic states. Some people are able to better manage their condition and stay on their medication. Others are more difficult.
This is of course a personal decision, but informing yourself about the illness and paying close attention to your loved one will help you determine what kind of life you can share with him or her.
2006-09-03 21:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Easy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. When manic depressives are upset they feel like the world is ending. Its a massive emotional journey for yourself being involved in the life of one.
That said though, it could give you a new perspective on the world and make you more compassionate to others.
2006-09-03 23:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by OzAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very. My good friend married her manic depressive boyfriend and unfortunately the stresses and strains of everyday married life and then fatherhood made his illness much worse. After 8 years he has been hospitalised and she has had to split from him for her children's safety. It has been incredibly difficult and sad for all of them. I would recommend that the manic depressive consulted a care worker on how the normal ups and downs of a relationship can best be dealt with.
2006-09-03 19:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by libbyft 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be extremely hard, as these fits of depression that they go into, can go for days or weeks, and you never now when, its likely to occur, to what degree, or some manic depression, can last forever, hard, and feel very sorry for anyone who suffers from this,and for anyone who loves them.........to look after and try to help them would be hard. I don't know if i could do it again.................good luck.
2006-09-03 19:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They drive you crazy! Okay seriously now, you start to wonder what is wrong with you, very deep inside. You find yourself doing things you normally wouldn't coz it seems normal to do it for them, especially if it's a guy with it. Like sharing a bank account or having one and agreeing to let the bipolar one spend from it after they depleted their own quite quickly...and letting them ruin your credit too. And they're good at crying and making you feel like a crumb who doesn't trust them or love them anymore, so it keeps on till you find the right ultamatim. (Yes, ultamatim.... Mine had to get medicated and STAY with it or else we wouldn't stay with him...and I pretty much meant it.) He even had me half convinced I had his illness too at one point, to be with him at all, but it was just frustrating dealing with him changing so early in the marriage...what pregnant woman WOULD NOT get "upset" with a husband who kept quitting jobs on a whim, coz they weren't "good enough" or you had just been pushed out of your own? Just an example of something "minor" they do. There are more fun things involving walls and coaxed sex too.
Stress causes them to do senseless, irrational things. The opposite of what they ought to.
They can really be quite good when not ill. Mine has epilepsy too, so he can only take certain medication or else he gets really bad manic episodes. Really bad. You think it's fun sometimes, but after a while the obnoxiousness is just that, it's not cute anymore.
You'll want to make sure yours isn't thriving on a high with meds or you'll have it so bad with them. Their needs/wants are above all others it seems. It's difficult to get them to stick with the meds, even if they have every reason to, even if they love you. They can be like normal rational people on the right meds though.
Wow, people are going to wonder what I'm doing posting this. Oh well, at least I was honest.
2006-09-03 22:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You may think you're in love with them when they're in their nice, romantic mood and then when they get into a different mood, you will absolutely hate their guts. It is extremely hard and unpredictable.
2006-09-03 20:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Katt Attack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not when it comes naturally although sometimes its easy to get angry with their illness but when you love them unconditionally at the end of it love IS the factor
2006-09-03 19:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's hard being in love with anyone.
2006-09-03 19:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is extremely hard. you always have to be very sensitive around them and you have to take care of them when they are upset. and this is way more frequent then with a normal relationship this takes a lot of work
2006-09-03 19:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by emily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋