please no smart remarks this is a serious situation.
2006-09-03 12:43:32 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, honey, he is so leaving marks, you just can't see them.....it is so easy for people to say to get out, but they aren't in your situation. First and foremost, you are better than that. You deserve better than that, and you will have better than that. This is not what God intended for you when He put you on this earth. The fear that you must feel is a horrible thing for me to imagine...first and foremost you need to make sure that you are safe, and if there are any children involved, they are safe also. I don't know what kind of area you live in, but most places have shelters for battered women. Police reports need to be filed, and even though is terrifying, they need to be followed through. Sad as it is, you may have to relocate, or have his sorry *** thrown in jail for a good long time. Even without the marks, if you he abusive physically, then he does it mentally also. He probably degrates you, and people have probably seen it. You need to find the courage to tell whoever will listen, even the ones that don't want to believe, MAKE them beleive, and then get the HELL out. There are so many options available to you, even though I know you feel like there are none. Talk to your doctor, your pastor, anyone that you know you can trust to protect you...don't give up, you aren't alone.
2006-09-03 17:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by pamalamadingdong_1 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he is not hitting you hard enough to leave marks, then he will one day. Don't stay in the situation long enough to get hit that hard. You need to leave now, before it's too late. There are many places to go if you are being abused. Go to a church, a trusted friend or family member, the police, or a call a domestic violence hotline. It may be hard to walk away, especially if you have kids. But, that's an even better reason to leave. If you have kids, chances are he will hit them too if he isn't already hitting them. A counselor at a domestive violence hotline will tell you what steps to take to get out of the situation.
2006-09-03 12:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That lucky dog! Just leave the jerk. If he hits you and leaves no marks then set up a video camera. Maybe if you make him really mad and try hard enough you can get him put in jail. This is what you really want. What is your problem? He can't be hitting you that hard? Why don't you just leave? He sounds like my ex. This is always the way abuse starts but no need to make a big fuss about it. He don't need a jail record neither do you. You'll be teaching this guy a big lesson when you walk out. Maybe he will seek counseling. Just leave while you can. My daddy use to hit my mother and she made a believer out of him. If he don't straighten up don't take him back. If he straightens up but don't want you back then "good riddance".
2006-09-03 12:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is leave. Even if he isn't leaving marks, there are women's shelters that will take you and kids if any are involved. They will help with counseling, and make sure he can't get near you. While there, you can file for divorce and get that sort of stuff out of the way. Alot of women fall for the "I'm Sorrys", but it only gets worse, and one day there will be marks, and they might just be marks you don't live to ask about....Please seek some help!
2006-09-03 13:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by crushedlover 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get your important papers and documents, IDs, any unreplaceable sentimental items (photos), a few changes of clothes, medications, and get the HELL OUT OF THERE ASAP. Take your pets and kids and their documents too.
Call the police from a friend's house and MAKE A DETAILED POLICE REPORT.
The police can help you decide what to do next, whether legal or for personal safety, and whether you should go back to the house or not. The next call after that is to your local domestic violence hotline for advice on what to do next.
Do not mess around with this. Report it immediately. Too many women let it escalate and end up DEAD.
Good luck.
2006-09-03 13:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything would be reason? I didnot u and ur husband bigorhaphy befoer who is gultie the falls position and who is creatin miscommunication both realation? Would didnot soulation in thise fact if u just asking ur self 5WH Question u can get ur result soo easily?
1. Who is involved the occuering
2 Why hits u?
3 When anger began?
4 What the real facect?
5. Where the pleece
6. How two communicaet to leaves marke by online
2006-09-03 13:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by Towhidul k 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
See if the leaves any marks not physically but mentally. Have this affected the way you feel about him? if i were to be hit id prefer a mark rather than a broken heart, try to think it that way. And also see the situation in which it took place, maybe he was joking or was a little bit depressed, do you think you might have done it if it was you instead of him?
2006-09-03 12:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rody 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My advice is to go to the authorities anyway. They deal with this on a daily basis. If you don't want to do that, then leave immediately before he DOES leave marks, or worse. There is lots of help available for abuse victims, marks or not. Good Luck!
2006-09-03 12:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! That is abuse, and you don't deserve that! As long as he is getting away with it, he will allow it to continue. He really needs counseling, but until he is well, you need to leave, do it for yourself. Once you find out that you don't need him, you may not even want him back even if he gets help. There are good guys out there that will care about you and give you a good life, but first you must break away from him, and look and see how to improve your life WITHOUT HIM!!!
2006-09-03 13:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave as soon as possible or wait till he leaves to go to work and pack your stuff and leave then. Either way I wouldn't stay in a relationship where it is abusive. Marks or no marks.
2006-09-03 17:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cricket 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋