im 15 and i need a mothers help?

Question

how in the world do i tell my mother that im pregnant? my mom isnt that understanding so i know she would so kick me out on my ***!!! but me and her are kind of close but i know she wouldnt ever want to talk to me again!!! i have no idea how to tell her idk what i should do please help me if you can!!

Answer 1

First of all......*hugs*!!!! Don't be scared, I know it seems scary, but remember there have been many other young ladies who have been in your shoes, and things turned out just fine. Are you religious? Just wondering. Maybe you could pray about it. Pray for strength, and for your parent(s) to understand. I agree that you should talk to her privately. Tell her you think that you are pregnant and need her help. As you've heard she will be upset, probably more hurt and disappointed than mad. Just tell her the truth, don't make excuses or try to justify it. Maybe arrange to have someone there with you (a friend, the father, a trusted adult), so you don't feel intimidated by your mom's reaction. Also, have somewhere you can spend the night in case your mom takes it hard, you can give her some room to vent. When things cool down let her initiate conversations about it. Do you plan to keep the baby? When she talks to you about it tell her you will take full responsibility for the baby. Just a few more things: Please don't consider abortion, adoption is better for you and your baby, take care of yourself during your pregnancy, and read the book "Imani All Mine". It's about a 13 year old girl in some city who gets pregnant. Don't read it before you talk to your mom though!!!!! You'll need someone to comfort you at the end of the story *sniff*. Do you mind if I pray for you and your baby?

Answer 2

I totally understand how scary it can be. Girl, this may sound ridiculous but I'm 31 and I was scared to death to tell my parents because they're VERY religious and I'm not married.
It took me a couple of weeks to muster up the courage to tell them that I was having a baby and I was expecting them to give me all the lectures. I'd gone over every single one in my head and had answers back for everything they could throw at me and ya know what?
They surprised me.
They were VERY supportive and loving and told me if I needed anything to let them know.

Now granted, it's a little different when you're 15 but all I'm saying is give your mom a chance. You can't carry around the secret for long. Besides the fact that you'll begin to show, it will drive you nuts worrying day in and day out about it and that kind of stress is no good for you or for the baby.

Just time it when you know she can devote her undivided attention to you. Tell her that you're pregnant and what your intentions are (finishing school, getting a job, whatever) and tell her that you obviously didn't plan for this to happen but you really would appreciate her support.

You just have to be strong and do it and the sooner you get it over with, the easier it will be on you. And you never know, she may surprise you and not take it as badly as you're expecting.

Answer 3

First off, don't listen to ant of these dumb-asses who are saying negative things to you on this board they are just assholes. .......... I got pregnant when I was 17 I thought my parents would hate me and never speak to me again, but, now my son is five and they love him more than life. Just sit your mom down and tell her, she will probably be mad and hurt and say some things she will later regret, but believe me things will be okay in the end. Your mom will never stop loving you no matter what you do. She might be mad for a while so don't fight with her or give her excuses to why and how it happened. Just let her be mad or rant and rave, whatever her reaction...just sit back and take do not retaliate it will lead to making the problems worse. Be Strong,honey. And good luck, things will turn out okay and this baby will be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Answer 4

Does your mom have a close friend or a sister or mother who you can arrange to be present when you tell her? It may help her stay calm and focused on "mothering" you with the love and understanding you need right now instead of spazzing out on you -- which, you have to admit, would be a normal gut reaction. If not, perhaps you could have the mother of one of your close friends come over with her daughter and the four of you could sit down to discuss it (providing they already knew). If your mom is mad that you arranged to have someone present, just tell her you were scared to death and didn't know what else to do. Just remember this, however mad she is at first, she is most likely to get over it pretty quickly -- especially if you tell her how scared you are, and tell her that you want to try to have as little stress as possible (as far as screaming and crying go) in order to not adversely affect the baby. I'm sure there are some horrible moms out there who would kick out there daughters for this, because I have heard of it, but most moms will not. If you say that you are kind of close, perhaps she won't. If you can't bring yourself to tell her, write her a very thoughtful letter, hand it to her, and then sit down in front of her so she knows you're not trying to run away from it but were just afraid you couldn't get out everything you wanted to say without sobbing. Be sure to say, "I love you. I'm sorry if this hurts you. And, I need your help."

Answer 5

The best thing to do is just come out and tell her the truth and to her face. She will be upset at first and maybe even say a few hurtful things. Give her a few days and I'm sure she will calm down and will help you out with what ever decision you make.

I was in the same situation at 17. My mother yelled and eventually came around after a week.

Good luck.

Answer 6

You just have to get brave and tell her. She might surprise you, but I'm sure she will be angry. Just in case she does kick you out or something, then have a plan, have a place or person you can go to for support and a place to live. Look in the y ellow pages under pregnancy, many communites have places to help if you don't have anyone else to turn to. Consider talking to your school nurse or counselor. Good Luck, I hope that after the initial shock that your Mom can overcome her anger and help you.

Answer 7

Hello. Well I am not going to sit here at critisize you for getting pregnant at such a young age like alot of people do. I cant b/c I was one who got pregnant at 15 too. (Now 23 and 2 months preg with my 3rd) I actually went on for 5 months w/o a period and didnt even want to believe I was pregnant, I ignored it... so I finally figured I'll take a test and see. Of course, I was. It was about midnight and I had 2 friends with me, my brother and his friend. So they were the first to know and suggested I better tell my mom. I was so scared, but knew I really had no choice. So.. I walked into her bedroom, woke her up and said " Mom, I have something to tell you.... Im pregnant" She sez to me, " Oh Jessie... god, okay well, we will make you an appointment tomorrow..geez." (and went back to sleep) I begged her not to tell my dad yet. The next night after coming home froma night out with a friend, I walked in the house and my dad asked if there was something I needed to tell him, and I said no, and he sez"now jessie, I know there is" I said no. He told me to come here, sat me on his knee and asked me if i were preg. I said yes. he asked why i was so scared to tell him. he said there is nothing he can say or do about it b/c its done and over with. Which is right. I mean yeah, your mom could yell or be mad for a short period, but it will end. It happened.. so there is nothing you or her can do or say. Its done with so move on from it ya know? I know it will be hard... but you can do it. Hopefully your mom will be there for you and be understanding...and I wish you the all the best of luck in the world. Talk to her.. calmly and hug her, it'll all be okay. Again, best of luck hun.

Answer 8

It is every girls nightmare to tell her mom she is pregnant. She probably wont throw you out (that was always our threat too) You need to tell her soon, so whatever you decide to do you can start making plans. Make sure you tell her you know you have disappointed her and how much you need her support. You will get her respect by being up front with her. Whats done is done and while you may have a rough few days ahead, a mom is always a mom. Good luck

Answer 9

Okay sweetie, first of all, you need to take care of yourself first. I have been there, I know that it is very scary. Just sit down with her and have an honest talk. I know it will be difficult, but at least it will be out in the open and you wont have to continue to stress about it, which is not good for the baby. No matter the result, there are lots of programs and places to help you through this. You have options for whatever decision you make. Also, if you need additional advice feel free to contact me, my email is [e-mail]

Answer 10

ok I know that this is hard for you to tell your mother however honest is the best policy. I was once there myself. You need to simply and calmly sit somewhere quiet and away from other people(with mom) and tell her, Yes, she will be angy, and sad, but a mother has unconditional love for her children no matter what. I seriously doubt she will kick you out if anything she'll help you make a decsion on whats best for you.