I have been sexually active since I was almost 17 and didn't have unprotected sex until just recently with the same guy the whole time...he has been tested and I was a virgin, I am very regular on my cycle but a little concerned about my health, well i am really upset about this gyno visit i dont know what to expect and i cant tell my parents my dad is irate he would die if he knew! so im goin to a clinic im scared they wont be accurate tho...i have been having like pms cramps all the time for about 2 months and during sex it hurts like he might be hitting something---then im sore for days afterwards---even during my last period it was the same pain the whole time instead of just a few days....any explanation to what i could expect?
2006-09-03 12:31:53 · 4 answers · asked by MaddieJo 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I have never had anal sex...and I really only have sex -maybe- once a week...is this still the problem?
2006-09-03 12:38:21 · update #1
At least you are going to a gynecologist. I didnt go until I was 21 yrs old and pregnant by a married man who told me he was not able to get me pregnant. Well I have a lot of proof he lied.
When you see the gynecologist, he or she will have you undress completely naked and have you put on a paper gown. You will give your history and tell them about the pain you are having. They will put both of your legs up into stirrups and sit down in a chair at the foot of the table and insert a lubricated speculum into your vagina. They have to open the tongs on the speculum to look at the cervix of your uterus. You will probably hear a couple of clicking noises. Then you will feel a gentle swab or scrape of your cervix and the doctor will look around and tell you if he/she sees anything visibly . Please tell them about the pain you are having with intercourse. Your boyfriend is probably being over zealous and pushing his penis in too far and hitting what I call "ground Zero". I had a boyfriend who had a large penis and kept thrusting himself into me too hard and it hurt. He was not gentle and I had to push him back to stop him. It was so not good at all. He of course thought it was great and I was an experienced lover.
Also, you need to make sure you are lubricated to prevent the vaginal dryness caused during the friction of intercourse. You need a very good lover to be patient and gentle during sex. Your boyfriend sounds like he is inexperienced and not a good lover.
Your anxious as every woman is before they see the gynecologist the 1st time. You are being totally normal. Make sure you get on birth control and discuss it with the doctor.
Good luck. You will be fine.
2006-09-03 12:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first gyno appt sucked. Well, it was just cause i was really scared and nervous. The ladies who helped me out were VERY nice :-) Make sure to pick a lady. They understand the girls better. Also, RELAX and things wont be as "bad" (They're not BAD, they just feel bad the first time..) I'm fine when I go there now... And I've been there maybe four times:-) Just know that they will NOT judge you... They see many v*gin*s all day.. So you don't have to worry about that.
I'm not sure what is wrong with your sex though..you said it hurt.. And I have no idea...unless he's just..large? He may be hitting your cervix. In certain positions (doggie) it hurts cause it's like someone pounding on the cervix and that hurts:-S
Like another answerer said...just ask a lot of questions while you are there. Seriously, think of the questions beforehand, and BRING IN A LIST. It's VERY helpful, cause if you forget to write 'em down and bring that piece of paper with you..you'll probably forget almost all of the questions... So...yes.
I wish you good luck!!! :-) You'll be fine. Don't worry :-)
2006-09-03 12:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by abbas_n_chantel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have an ovarian cyst, I've had them and they can usually shrink them with birth control pills if they aren't too big. But you should definitely go to the doctor right away to find out what's going on because they can worsen and cause problems--and it isn't that bad really, it's actually a very fast exam. Even if you go to a doctor that knows your family, it would be totally inappropiate for them to disclose any information if you said you wanted it private. But if the clinic you mentioned is good then that should be fine too.
2006-09-06 19:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anne R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre just very sexually active. anal sex has a lot to do with this, as well as him going to hard on you. lay off of sex for awhile and see what happens. discuss everything with your gynocologist.
2006-09-03 12:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋