but a month later he apologizes and says that he was acting like that because he was scared, would u forgive him and go out with him again?
and he says he will help u take care of the baby and be there for u. wat would u do?
2006-09-03 12:22:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think I would give him a chance...what if he really was scared? Especially because you are young.
2006-09-03 12:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by sexyprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys get scared that their girl got pregnant but they would live up to their responsibilities. But on the other hand, if he stopped talking to you and a month later he shows up and apologize, who knows, he might leave you again and leave you hanging. I wouldn't go back out with him but keep him at a friendship level so take the responsibility of his child because it shows that he's not ready to become a father. You need to make that choice, follow your heart and make sure your decision is right for you and your baby
2006-09-03 12:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by lilruby052001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give him a chance if you want to, but sweety it's your choice no-one elses. He probably was a little scared and shocked at first and used his time away from you to absorb and process his feelings on the situation.
I know it is hard and at a time like this you do need support not anxiety but Men don't always behave the way they should, especially when they are still really only boys. You should count yourself lucky that he has come to his senses. The road of a single Mother is not a smooth one, trust me. Good luck to you in this situation, and for during your pregnancy. Embrace the miracle within you and enjoy the magic thats about to fill your world.
2006-09-03 12:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is genuinely sorry, and he promises to pay child support and be there to help care for the baby, then I definitely would give him another chance. It is scary to be a pregnant mother at 17, and scary to be the father. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. If you don't get married, I'd have him sign court papers agreeing to pay support, too, so that he can't skip out on you again without being made to pay child support.
2006-09-03 12:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would probably give him a chance because he explained why he left out of fear which is probably true. What will it hurt if you give him a chance? Besides another guy wanting a girl thats 17 and pregnant is slim to none. The baby has a right to know its father to. Good Luck
2006-09-03 12:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what a decent chap. He is offering to "help" you with the baby. News flash...it's his baby, too! He is just as responsible for caring for the child as you are.
You need to forgive him for the baby's sake. As for dating him again? Only if you really think you want to spend the rest of your life with him. Once a baby is in the picture, casual dating goes out the window.
2006-09-03 12:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Register with child protective services, and make sure that he will be financially responsible for helping you for the next 18 years, no matter what his fickle heart is feeling.
But, after doing that, yes, go out with him again! You owe it to your ("your" plural) baby to try to provide him or her with TWO parents, and, indeed, a girl saying she is pregnant IS scary. Honestly tell him you are going to use legal means make him help you out financially, but also sincerely tell him that you hope that he can be the kind of father your baby deserves without any prodding.
2006-09-03 12:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if he apologizes. If he walked out before the baby is here he will do it again when the baby is born. I don't care if he is scared or not. I am sure you are scared too. But you don't have that option of just walking away. Ditch that loser................
2006-09-03 12:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kristen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that's a common thing for guys to do once they learn of the mistakes they've made. but it does take two people to make a baby so you're not out of the clear young lady! yes, forgive him because you'll need all of his support when you have this baby.
2006-09-03 12:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him another chance...Fatherhood is a scary proposition for a young man. My husband was in his 30's when i got pregnant and he still freaked out when i told him. Give your guy some love and support and chances are he will do the same.
2006-09-03 12:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by patricia_hyland72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through this at your age i am 28 my son is 9. i cant say that he is lieing but I can say watch your back. my sons father said that he would be there and he would help me but insted he left me and my son is lucky to see him once a year. you are young and have a big future out of it make him earn your trust . dont just give it to him he will think that it is ok to keep walking away. and that you will keep taking him back i am a single mother success. and you can be to.
2006-09-03 12:28:53 · answer #11 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋