would you have another child?

Question

if you thought it was ging to save your marraige

Answer 1

NO!!! I know that a child can NOT save a marriage. Your husband may stay becouse he feels he has too but that feeling will only turn into resentment and then eventually when the marriage falls apart anyways there is just one more person involved to be hurt.

Answer 2

Hope I don't come over wrong as I know it's a touchy subject, but I wouldn't recommend it. Having a family is wonderful and meaningful, but would it be ethical to have a child in the hope of saving the relationship? The relationship is about the two partners, they fell in love and now things are difficult, but would a child really help? The problem may not be the absence of another child but most likely it's a problem with the relationship itself, if anything having another could complicate things, sleepless nights, crying at all hours. Surely it would be best for the couple to build their relationship in a calmer environment and then renew their devotion with a child.

Answer 3

Ha. It definitely makes marriage more complicated!! I think the only way it would save a marriage would be if your husband was pushing for it, then go for it. Another child could mean even less time together for intimacy, and more burdens, financially, and otherwise. I have 3 kids, and it helped by forcing us to stop being selfish, for sure. But there are no guarantees.

Answer 4

nope, a child wont save a marriage , it may delay the process but one save it and the marriage that is in ruin will probably end up that way eventually and all u have now done is ruined another childs life because they are now another product of a divorced family... i think its selfish and stupid to bring another child into a unhappy marriage, get ur marriage on track first then talk about having a baby but dont use a child hopeing that it will save the marriage, extremely bad idea

Answer 5

I don't really think that children can save a marriage. In reality some people stay together for the child's sake, even though they are not happy. I hope that's not what you want. You could try to find other ways of saving your marriage.

Answer 6

The most important thing to keep in mind when deciding to have a child is the child itself. Is that child going to grow up in a loving environment (a fundamental right of every child) or a home full of bickering, resentment and regret? No matter how hidden beneath the surface you think those feelings are, the child will feel them.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to say that i did and it's one of the silliest things i've ever done in my life!I love my daughter dearly and wouldn't be without her for the world.But,rather than it helping our relationship problems it made things worse!Have a child for the right reasons...not to try and fix something that's perhaps broken forever.Try and sort your relationship out with your partner before you make any hasty decisions.Good luck and best wishes

Answer 8

no way because if your marriage is failing then the chances are a baby won't save it just push further apart and then you got to watch your child(ren) grow up missing their daddy. its not fair to put that pressure on yourself, your husband and your kid(s). Kids should (in my opinion) be born into a secure loving environment and it probably won't be if the two parents are contemplating a separation.

Answer 9

When one feels the marriage needs to be "saved", having another child isn't going to do it. I would only have children if the marriage was strong, and both of us wanted to do it.

Answer 10

No.

What about the kid?

Is like putting a plaster on an infection!

Your even asking the question is so psychologically warped.

You need to see a therapist.

Seriously!