The game is over. she proved me she can't be the one i desire in life to have. she never been what i wanted and she ended up being unfaithful to me........ why and why I Still can't hate her, after what she has done to me??? Why I still care and worried about her... but last thing i want is, us to get back together. i can't stop worrying about her and care what she is doing with her life.
How can i really free myself from those stupid thoughts, which i know it's not my business at all to care about someone who ruind mylife. I know even talking to her causing pain in my chest but yet i can't stop myself of not wanting to help her i can and talk to her.
p.s: she is in trouble and in deep S**t ,that she even doesn't know and doesn't want to accept it, what she put herself in by choosing a wrong path in life.
Tell me about your experince and how you deal with it.
2006-09-03 12:13:05 · 10 answers · asked by Alex 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there's a good book written by john gray about starting over a realtionship. your public library should have a copy. read the book at least twice so you can understand the concepts and follow the advice.
it helped me get over my ex-wife, i had the same horrible experience like you are having now. the earlier you get over it the better for your health. good luck !
2006-09-03 12:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by hormonehero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wasn't happy and that's really why she cheated. You don't need to feel sorry for her. I really feel sorry for you. You can't see that she probably really loved you. Feeling unloved is why most women cheat. I do not believe once a cheater always a cheater. I believe that some people are not compatible. You may have a low sex drive. Maybe you spent too much time at work, out fishing, camping, with the guys, or at the ballgame. Until you accept part of the blame you will continue to feel this way. As for her choosing the wrong path in life; she probably did when her life was falling apart. People don't always think clearly when they are going through sadness, lonliness, and emotional problems. Go back and help her if it's not too late. You don't have to take her back. Read the book of Hosea in the Bible. This should help you.
2006-09-03 19:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some love, friends and good conversation to purge some of this pain. I am sending a cyber-hug and I wish the best for you!
Here is the reality she didn't ruin your life and you deserve to make and have a true love, someone who is genuine and caring!
We all make decisions to wear rose colored glasses to hide the things in those we love, sometimes we need to remove the delusion and look at the reality! You can't pay for debts you don't owe others, if they come with baggage and don't want to improve there situation it is a clear sign and we need to except this! No one deserves to be cheated on, period and end of story, how selfish is that! You sound like a very caring and loving person, but you can't rescue people. Try and give yourself sometime to find out what your needs are and get into whatever you enjoy and find yourself! There is someone and something out they're that will be your life and worthy! Sometimes I truly believe we have to go through so much to really get what we need and when we do it is incredible and very precious.
I wish you that preciousness. Good luck! Take care of yourself and make it your time!
2006-09-03 19:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my past boyfriends have proven that a nice girl isn't what they wanted out of the relationship and found someone else that was usually ugly, dumb and a whore. I've made the mistake of sleeping w/my ex thinking that we would get back together....Boy, that was stupid of me to think that would ever happen, but in my mind I still cared for this person. Speaking from personal experience the best thing for you is to not have anything to do w/the person. Yes, you'll be thinking of her, but after some time has passed you'll be okay...I promise! Good luck w/future and better relationships.
2006-09-03 19:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was just in the same boat this type of person wont change and you deserve better if she truely cared for you from the stat she wouldn't of been unfaithful. i have a 9 year old son from a man i still wonder about who was unfaithful to me. the best bet is to move on with your life becouse she has. and try not to worry about other people and think of the ones who truelycare for you.
2006-09-03 19:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear young man it seems you have done everything you could to help, now even though it's hard ,you need to let go. If she needs you she'll find you, and hopefully it won't be to bad when she does.It is really hard to help someone that doesn't want help, just let her know she can always call you and leave it at that. Good Luck !!
2006-09-03 19:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Louisa R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a therapist. You are co-dependent and it's not healthy. What you're feeling is not unnatural, but you should move on. Don't get dragged down by her. You can still care about her, but accept that she makes her own choices and you're no longer responsible.
2006-09-03 19:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by ndtaya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prozac.
2006-09-03 21:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time to get over the hurt,believe me one day you will meet another and it will be all gone.
2006-09-03 22:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still dealing with that S*IT!
2006-09-03 19:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by stunston 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋