please answer if you have been there done that-and the out come
2006-09-03 12:07:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there, done that.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
2006-09-03 12:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some people who shouldn't get married, so living together is a better option. These people are too self-centered to make a lasting commitment. For people who want a "'til death do us part" kind of relationship, get married first! The word "commitment" is the key. Don't let anyone tell you that living together is testing what it is like to be married. It isn't the same at all. Living together is not necessarily permanent, so you won't know what marriage is like. Marriage is a real legal commitment and people tend to try harder to make it work. Marriage gives you lots of legal rights that living together does not. If your sweetheart gets hit by a bus, you have no rights to talk to the doctors, etc. if you aren't married. Your partner's parents will swoop in to take over. If you are married, YOU are the "next of kin."
2006-09-03 19:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you want. If you don't want to get married ever, then live together. If you want to get married, don't live together. Most men don't feel any reason to commit more if their needs are being satisfied already As already mentioned - Why buy the cow when you can get the milk? If you live together, be prepared not to get married at all or for a long time - unless you are engaged.
2006-09-03 22:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that, still married(separated but that's another story) 21 yrs. later. Love him to death & he does me. We certainly knew what we were getting as we lived tog. 2 years first. I am not reccomending this for everyone. In my case, I had been married once before & he'd been married 4 times. When both of us wanted the marriage at the same time, we knew it was going to be o.k. I think younger folks who've never been married should not live together first but that's just my opinion. There are as many reasons for folks to do it that way as there are reasons for not doing it & it is something everyone must decide for themselves.
2006-09-03 19:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by mazell41 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is totally up to the two people involved. As long as they are both satisfied with their relationship - be it marriage or partnership - there's nothing wrong with either one. From the practical standpoint, the laws make life easier for the legally married couple, and marriage is still more socially acceptable. I personally would either get *all* the benefits of being single, or get *all* the benefits of being married - but with living together, you kinda don't get either.
2006-09-03 19:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is proven that people that live together before they are married tend to also divorce much quicker. In essence, the type of person that desires to live in sin (cohabitate without being married) is less likely to be able to commit to marriage.
If you love each other and believe in marriage forever, why not get married? If you don't believe in marriage forever, then you shouldn't marry (or even date for that matter).
2006-09-03 19:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't live together. It is better to get married. I lived with my husband for 8 yrs before we married and we didn't last a year married. That piece of paper matters.
2006-09-03 19:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by ednolb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people have been that route, I honestly haven't though. Living together is like testing what it would be like to be married. While you're getting closer to that final step (marriage) you're checking out what its like. A lot of people love each other when they only see each other every so often but a lot of problems arise when they're actually living together. That's why people don't just marry, because they need to see if it's actually something they can live with.
2006-09-03 19:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a very good idea, because you know the GOOD and the BAD, about that person, and then can actually make up your mind if this is who you want to spend the rest of your life with! Its easy to be nice on dates, and show your best side, but when your with someone all the time, you see it all, and then you will have your answer!
2006-09-03 21:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my bf. He is divorced, doesn't want to get married again, I don't really care if I ever get married or not. Living together has been working out just fine for us.
2006-09-03 19:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by msuzyq 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
living together is a personal choice
i would definetly live with someone before mariage that way you get to know eachother truly really well and you'll know for sure no doubt that you would want that person for life
it works the come out to great been there done that
2006-09-03 19:27:56 · answer #11 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋