my long time friend is hurt that i regifted the ring $450.00 to my neice . I had it two years and can no longer wear rings. she thinks i could have had it made into something else. she thinks her act of kindness means nothing to me. thats not true . should i have asked her permission before regifting.
2006-09-03 11:52:33 · 11 answers · asked by Sheila B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she is so upset by this and does'nt see it any other way but her way . If I don't pay her $450.00 she will probably end our friend ship of 30 years. I've told her I was sorry that she's been so hurt by this.
2006-09-05 09:25:29 · update #1
it's a gift... it doesn't come with conditional strings. once given, it's yours. And it was awesome that you gave it to someone you care about. Just like she gave it to you becuase she cares about you.
lot of people give duplicate gifts (like wedding gifts) to other people that might need them more then just returning them. Or even using them for 2 years (say a microwave) but you buy a new one becuase you need a bigger one. You give the old one to someone who needs it. You don't pay the giver back becuase you gave it to someone else.
Something sounds off honestly. Have a real talk with her. I'm sure you have given her something that she's thrown away or gotten rid of. Did she give you money for them?
2006-09-03 12:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by cougardame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there was more than 'just a gift' behind the meaning of this ring. How many friends give $450 gives, especially diamond gifts?
If this ring was some type of an engagement ring, than the gift giver definitely deserves the money back. If it wasn't, and you just have a really nice friend, than the ring was yours to do what you wanted with it.
Though, I must say, that's a pretty extravagant gift to give to a niece. Perhaps you should have worn it strung through a necklace or a bracelet. I would be hurt, as the friend that gave you something so special for you to give it away...as a regift.
2006-09-03 12:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by DeadlyPetals 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You were wrong in "regifting" that gift. A gift usually means a lot to the giver even though it may not mean as much to the receiver. Your best bet would be to either;
1) Buy a different ring for your niece and tell her that you found something better that you think would look even nicer on her and get you gift back.
2) Don't do anything and lose a friend over your mistake.
It's up to you to make the call.
2006-09-03 11:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all, that's not your deal. you do no longer might desire to call absolutely everyone. 2nd, that's so very rude to do, day after right now or ever. i do no longer care who the guy is in terms of you, your sister-in-regulation, or your daughter, it continues to be rude, and you're nevertheless probable to harm somebody's emotions. fairly, it could possibly be as much as the giver. If she would not obtain a "thank you", a gentle question to be certain if the bride even sent them out could be positive. If it have been me, i could be going over the presents back, in case I had ignored one. Gee, LOL, with 75 presents, it would be undemanding to misplace one!
2016-11-06 08:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her act of kindness seems to have strings attached. If you can no longer wear rings I think what you did was very sweet of you. You kept it in your family and that should say something for your character.
You didn't pawn it for money. I think you did the right thing and I don't think you owe her anything.
2006-09-03 11:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by llbm3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not nice to re gift especially when a friend gives you a piece of jewellery. Sorry, I have to agree with your friend, but I don't think you should pay the money, it is the moral issue.
2006-09-10 09:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phuck that! A real friend wouldn't ask u to pay her for a gift, and as far as the ring, maybe you should've just held on to it, afterall it was a gift.
2006-09-03 11:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why she would be upset that you gave away a $450 ring she gave you. Still, she gave it to you, and it's yours to do whatever you want with it. I don't think it's right for her to make you pay, because she chose to give it to you.
2006-09-03 12:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by hco_meredith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to agree with your friend, it obviously meant alot for her to give it to you, if you wanted to give it away you should have mentioned this to her, and she is also right about making it into something else...why didn't you?
2006-09-11 11:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by raffi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she gave you the gift it was yours to do with as you please. giving it to your niece in my opinion theres nothing wrong with that.
2006-09-03 11:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by smiley283 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋