There was an ugly domestic dispute that landed him in jail. He called me daily, but since his mama bailed him out and he has gone to live with her, he hasn't tried to call once. I assume he's done with me, and even though he did a terrible thing, I still love him and miss him. I wonder if he is hurting, too. I don't understand how somebody can just turn off their feelings like this. Two days before it happened, he had sent me flowers and the day before it happened, he had told me he loved me. We had had arguments before, but this one got wayyyy out of hand. I know he feels bad about what happened, but could his answer be to just run away from the scene and never look back? His only bail condition was to have no contact with me, but he could go through a mutual friend. I don't understand what's going on.
2006-09-03 11:50:41 · 6 answers · asked by complex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anytime a man ends up in jail, a red flag goes up. This is a sign that he is dangerous - possibly incapable of correctly dealing with his emotions so he goes off the deep end. My advice would be to RUN, not walk from this guy and stay far away. End all contact and move on.
2006-09-03 11:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He needs to stay away from you because you will continue to be trouble for him. I do not blame him for never going back. This is the way it would have ended in time. He left you for the same reason that he went to jail. You need to go on with your life. I doubt seriously if he is hurting at all. He is much better off. You will be too when you see it was for the best. You said no contact what is your problem? Maybe you want him to go back to jail.
2006-09-03 19:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you need to stay away from this person who will only drag you down more if you continue to stay with him. Seek some counseling. My husband of 35 years abandon for a old high school girlfriend and he didn't even look back. He of course blame me for his behavior, and of course I know that's bull. Of course your going to hurt, but it will take time, trust me. I'm sorry but no man or woman is worth that kind of sacrifice. You sound like your very young and you have alot to look forward to. Never look back and think only of the good things that you have done. Trust in your God and family and friends. You might never understand what's going on. "Karma!?" what goes around will come around to him. You deserve better. Take care
2006-09-03 19:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by nicknacpattymac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suspect that everyone feels like a failure in these situations...some show it more than others, but no matter what, in any case, a failure is a failure. I am sorry for your lose, but you see as well as anyone, that this can't go on like this. He is a fool for throwing you away, but thank your lucky stars that you learned early enough to make a new life. Take him for all you can . Good luck
2006-09-03 18:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
personally i wouldnt contact you either if you did that to me ... think about it ... would you want to end up there again but longer next time....nooooooooooooooooooooo why would you want him to contact you ... that is what it sounds like you are whinning about.... get over it sounds like you are the Bi*ch that did this to him.......sound like my ex sister in law that kept harrassing my brother....but HE got in trouble when she wanted him to come pick the kids up for a simple visit....stupid sh*t......be nice if we knew the real details of why he went to jail on here...and what all happened but as we dont know makes it hard to say now doesnt it so im sorry i dont know
2006-09-03 18:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by fantasia91273 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
red flag.....domestic dispute.....are you waiting for it to escalate into something more volient...no...you are just desperate...if being in contact with you would land me in jail again..I would stay as far away from you as I possible can
2006-09-03 19:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋