married for 5 years,..no kids together. the first 2 yrs sex was great! now it hardly exists. He has a 45 min. drive to work but leaves up to one and a half hours early everyday. His explaination is that he just doesn't like to feel rushed.
2006-09-03 11:31:45 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he has lost all interest in sex. Try this everyday no matter what, be naked when he comes home from work. Do it everyday until he starts or begins interest in sex again.
2006-09-03 11:33:56 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, let's do the math here. A 45 min. drive to work and he leaves 1/1/2 hrs earlier. That leaves him with 45 minutes spare time to "do the unthinkable". Hmmm, doesn't seem like too much time to do anything.
I know that for some couples the sex declines after they have been married for a while but this doesn't mean they are cheating in all cases. There are a lot of other reasons why the sex drive decreases. Stress is one of them, boredom is another.
I wouldn't jump to conclusions right away if this is the only sign you're seeing and his excuse for leaving work early could very well be valid, especially if he's trying to avoid the rush hr. The best thing to do is to communicate with him and let him know how u feel. U can't just assume he's cheating based on him leaving work 1 1/2 hrs earlier especially if this is "routine" for him.
If u are really in doubt, follow him to work one day.
2006-09-03 11:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need more than this to know what is up. Any other reasons you might be thinking he is a cheater? Usually, if you are thinking that, then there is more than the time he leaves for work being too early. Hey, donuts at a coffee shop may be why, especially if he is hiding those donuts from YOU and his Dr?
Start looking around and check into his whereabouts. Do not confront him, you will tip him off. Just be cool, and keep your eyes open. Do a few things outside the realm of your usual routine, and see if something crops up. Then if it does, if you are not able to forgive him and will need your freedom, get evidence first. Then confront him and end it with all the chips on your side of the table.
2006-09-03 11:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by DA R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still could be true.
I would not expect him to be fooling around without more signs than that. You could say you are going shopping around the same time he leaves and follow him - or have a friend follow him some day to see if it is true.
I would wonder if there are other signs. A guy could have sex 2 times a day if he is getting it on the way to work... that does not mean he could not be with you in the evening.
See if he wants to have a date out.... with a plan. Make time for a relationship. After 5 years - why no children? decision> ?
2006-09-03 12:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you seriously basing your suspicion on him leaving one and a half hour early in the morning? In today's traffic, a 45 minute drive can easily turn into an hour plus. As far as the sex is concerned, ask him. And be nice about it. Ask him if he's tired, perhaps he's been working too hard, ask him what you can do to help because you miss what you used to have together. Remember, you catch more flies with honey then with vinegar. Good Luck!
2006-09-03 11:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question, then you already have the answer. Your first clue was the decline in sex, the next clue was the hour and a half early drive. Sometimes all it takes is a little common sense, topped off with your own investigation! Don't be his fool. Question everything he does and watch as the lies start to unfold. When that happens, pack your sh**, and go!
2006-09-03 11:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ty 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have you tried initiating yourself? If you start things out and he still refuses, keep trying. If it still doesn't happen, then you need to talk to him about it. Not yelling, talking. Maybe he is having some emotional issues right now and doesn't want to "upset" you with them. Maybe work is stressing him out and he's trying to get extra work done. I leave for work 45 minutes before I have to because I get my best work done before everyone gets there. Some people are that way. I think it's wrong to assume before knowing all of the details.
2006-09-03 11:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by peanut23536 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust yo instincts, they'll usually steer u in the right direction no matter if your a wife or a husband. Usually if you're already having these concerns or ideaz then it's 90% right. But if you're just goin on the fact that he goes to work early dont judge it based off just that, I personally go to work 30 min early everyday (and believe me I"D NEVER CHEAT ON MY WIFEY, SHE'S MY SOUL MATE) and I wanna spend as much time as possible with her but I have alot of responsabilities and don't like to get there exactly ontime, plus it looks better to be early cuz ontime usually looks like u don't care about advancement. Take to him and see his reactions or how he treats you and just trust your heart and MIND. Good Luck
2006-09-03 11:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by MexiShortieHubby 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He may be cheating on you by leaving to work earlier than usual. I cheated on my h and yes I did start leaving to work earlier just so I can hang out with my lover a little before work. We worked together. But be careful, your h may not be cheating on you too. There are other signs of cheating. Email me if you wanna know. You can always check what time he gets in at work by calling his work number.
2006-09-03 11:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by SimpleGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of following him in his car, you may want to rent a vehicle so he doesn't spot you. You also could get a tracking device and hide it somewhere in the car and track him over the Internet. That can be done almost real time. Also, if you can get access to his credit card/check card receipts and his cell phone records, that may help.
Also, is he coming home at the same time he used to?
2006-09-03 11:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by watergirl54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋