do you think that the beauty is important ?would you marry a great lady but not attractive ;short with big teeth and she hate dancing?
2006-09-03 11:18:21 · 23 answers · asked by thefeather 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
beauty is only skin deep so if you found something about her that makes you want to marry her than you know she is a beautiful person to you, who cares what every one else thinks.
2006-09-03 11:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by amy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is surely within a person not the outside. If this lady is far different from any woman you've been with in the past and there is a connection between you two that is off the wall. Don't look with your eyes but with your heart. Beautiful is what society today considered to be an outside thing but says who. Beauty can mean anything and everything. I'm telling you go beyond your five senses of what you know and step out in faith. God will bless a relationship like that if your a faith rider. If your heart truly says yes, be the best man to her you can be. Loving her always
Alright!
2006-09-03 18:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by cookielover3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with marrying a person I do not think is very attractive -- beauty fades and it is the person that matters most. Any super attractive person could be in a horribly disfiguring accident and if you married them because they were attractive, you'd be in big trouble, eh?
The hating dancing part is hard if you love it -- perhaps she would be willing to take some dance classes. Most people who don't like to dance, can't dance well or they can't find the beat (uncoordinated). Dance with her in private and get her to loosen up then take her to a dance club and just watch others dance. When you watch others, you realize that very few people dance like Justin Timberlake.... LOL!
Good luck, good guy! She should be glad to have a real man instead of a shallow guy. I admire you for asking this question, it is a real issue that many people have and I'm sorry people are questioning your love because you asked a legitimate question.
2006-09-03 18:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hardest learned lesson in love is, don't fall in love with a woman who is super beautiful on the outside (even if she totally digs you) if she has compromised morals, or a lack of Godly character.
A woman is only as beautiful as her insides. I do think that physical attraction is important in a relationship, but the reality is that if you marry a girl, you should plan to be with her for life - and chances are her looks are going to change through the years anyway.
What's most important is to have someone that is trustworthy, who can forgive, who can be your partner in life. Someone that won't love you in the good times and then steal your shirt in the bad times. Compatibility is an absolute must. That's more than just looks, that's personality and how you believe. That's also a matter of goals and dreams. Of course, you don't want to be too picky looking for the perfect person (cuz there ain't one!).
When you find her, you gotta do right by her, too. It goes both ways.
2006-09-03 18:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by firebyknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are right or wrong. Usually couples are physically attracted to each other, that's what gets them talking. If you don't find this person attractive, how can you look at them for the rest of your life. Being short with big teeth seems to trouble you or you wouldn't have shared this. You never even listed one positive thing about her other than she's great. Maybe you should look at yourself. Maybe your not so terrific either. Bottom line - beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...
2006-09-03 18:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by b's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you be wrong for loving someone? doesn;t matter what she looks like, she makes you happy... beauty is not everything. as people age, their beauty fades....
you also have to think: the things you said about her: great lady, but not attractive; short w/ big teeth, hates dancing...are these things that are going to annoy you in the long run? are these things that YOU noticed about her, or are they things that OTHER people say about her. because, either way, it doesn't seem very nice. think about what you want. do you really love her?
2006-09-03 18:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truly speaking...beauty doesn't matter.What matters is how you feel about her about,because something that is from the heart no one can change it.To me the way i see it ,you really love her,so if i was in your position i would absolutely go for it and marry her ,but considering that it's the right time of course!!
What if you were in the same position as her,would you be happy if other people didn't associate with you just because of what they think and don't have control over?obviously NOT.So possible you might find that she doesn't want to dance because she's lacking support which by the way you can give her that ,,just be SUPPORTIVE and not react like other people towards her .
You really,really love her so continue doing that and showing it to her ,it might change her attitude!!
Good luck and i wish you all the best to your relationship!!
Peace..............................frm Lerato
2006-09-03 18:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by lerato.justin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't believe that looks are the key to a long lasting relationship, it's what's within. However, in today's grueling society with pressure from our friends, co-workers, family and such....Looks have I guess somewhat of a bearing. If looks are of the upmost importance to you and she's not something that lights your fire or puts a glaze over your eyes from her "natural" beauty, than you may find yourself restraining to open up and let her in fully into you and vice versa. Your the only one who can really decide this. You say you want to marry her, if you love her, and I mean really love her...than put your wetsuit on and dive in feet first.
2006-09-03 18:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by 37kids 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You marry who you can not live without. otherwise; you stay single. Beauty is important if you like beautiful things. But, it sounds to me that by asking this question that you find this person lacking in more than her looks. So. you are probably wrong. People don't change because you want them to but because they feel they should. Don't marry someone you think you can change. Marry the person who makes you want to change yourself.
2006-09-03 18:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're even asking the question you got problems. Beauty fades with time. Beauty is an illusion shattered by the slightest breeze of time. It's OK to care about someone THOUGH they are beautiful, but if you only care for them BECAUSE they are beautiful you are shallow and destined for heartbreak.
Plus, the girl of my dreams was rather plain when I met her and the longer she was with me the better she got, according to all who knew or saw her. Unfortunately (and this is why I said what I said above) she, too, was obsessed with the superficial and unable to grasp the complex and wonderful, so she's gone and there's another lucky lady in my future.
2006-09-03 18:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't know if you're serious, but the old adage that it's not the outside that counts in my experience is absolutely true. Do you want a gorgeous wife who is a complete dolt or shrew? Or would you rather have someone who might not be quite as easy on the eyes but provides you with trust, loyalty and intellectual and physical stimulation?
2006-09-03 18:22:30 · answer #11 · answered by Cinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋