hi i have this friend thats a little leech i mean i love her and all but like at football games and stuff she just leeches on to me. And its not bad that i have a friend that likes me its just that i can't hang around all my other friends because shes a little loner and never talkes to anyone i cant believe im just spilling my guts like this. Does anyone have advice on how to get her to hang around other people and leave me alone some of the time any advice is appriciated. and for all the ppl who are going to leave those smart *** remarks just move on and get a life stop looking like an ***. But thanks to all the ppl who are acctually going to leave a message that has some meaning (ill shut up now)
2006-09-03 11:12:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
o.k, sounds to me like maybe she has low self-esteem. By trying to help her feel good about her self, it may give her the boost of confidence she needs to mingle with other people. I know sometimes when your shy, it's hard to make friends, because the fear of rejection. Just try to give her a little bit of a positive push in the right direction. If this is what is wrong, who knows maybe in a few weeks she will start to venture out. Good luck!!
2006-09-03 11:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not nice to call her a "leech" friend or latchy or whatever. Maybe she has a social thing and needs counseling or an understanding moral support provider. Like a friend. Like you. Who knows? Next....
Why's she going to events at which you don't introduce her to anyone? Why's she going with you to stuff she doesn't like? Do you go places she wants to go and talk to people she introduces you to?
Could try introducing her to people sometimes, particularly someone whom you think she might have something in common. Could try parting ways momentarily to go do your own thing: introduce it first though, to be polite. Say you meet a guy you want to hang out for a while as you're with her. Turn to her and smile and say you're going to go with him for a bit, maybe suggesting something else she can do. After a while, she'll get the point and either stop going with you where she doesn't feel she has no business being OR she'll come out of her shell just enough to have fun while out with you.
This is all going to come out sounding rude or something, but I'm really quite literal in saying this. It might not be what a counselor says, but hey, it's true to life and it's what you're thinking anyway. Good luck!
2006-09-03 18:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get her interested in a boy if possible.
2006-09-03 19:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by stephenl1950 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋