i am 18 think i might be pregnant got a positive and a negative am i too young for a baby and marriage and college all at once????????my bf is 19 and softmore in college.
2006-09-03 10:59:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
not sure if i should tell my bf yet or at all he will dump me i'm sure!!
2006-09-03 11:00:05 · update #1
i dont think i can handle this
2006-09-03 11:10:19 · update #2
It might be alot to handle but if yur a strong woman you and are sure to handle it. That's what happened to my aunt and she's a teacher and has three kids. She graduated frm college and everything. She's my idol!!
2006-09-03 11:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by k c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK,well first off hun calm down.Second of all,you got a positive and a negative.Take a third if you have it,to confirm.I would suggest going to your obgyn over all they can more accurately tell you.Now,you have two choices.I say two because i do not believe in abortion at all,and i do not believe that in any situation it is acceptable.Now,as for the two choices.
A.)You can keep this child(If you are pregnant,once you confirm negative or positive).You can raise this child,it will be hard and you will need help.You will need help from your boyfriend,who should be a man and be responsible.You will need to tell him,if you are definately.If he dumps you then he isnt worth your time hun.Secondly,you need to talk with your parents.It will be very hard to speak with them.They wont be angry more so disappointed which may come across as angry as time goes on they will accept this.Do not ever think this is impossible as many young girls do this everyday of their lives.
B.) You can put this child up for adoption.They have what is called an "Open Adoption".What this means is that basicly you can be involved in this childs life.They communicate and keep in touch by phone,email,pictures,and sometimes in some situations weekly visits.That allows this child to know who you are,so that when he/she gets older they will know who you are and you wont be a mystery.
Either way,you need to speak first off with your obgyn to confirm your pregnancy and make sure everything is healthy.Secondly,you need to speak with your boyfriend and then your parents.You also need to remember that you have nine months to make this decision.Think long and hard about this situation.Please,do not consider abortion even tho you made a mistake your baby isnt a mistake and eventually your boyfriend will see that this child is a blessing too.Good luck hun.
2006-09-03 20:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got a positive you are probably pregnant. Yes you are too young. And if you are pregnant of course you should tell your bf. He has the right to know. Why would he dump you? You both made the irresponsible mistake. You need to really think if you are ready and have enough help to raise a child because I can tell you it is HARD work. This is someone's life you're dealing with. Not a doll. You need to talk this over with your boyfriend and a family therapist who can give you the resources you need to get the help you need. Call your doctor or hospital to get a recommendation. It is confidential. And please take prenatal vitamins and get prenatal care. No more partying. If you are going to be a parent then you need to start acting like one immediately. If you are not pregnant, and I hope you're not, then you need to be more responsible with your sex life. It only takes one time.
2006-09-03 18:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by gspmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant, you need to tell him. Eighteen is young to have a baby, but I did it. I had to put off my college plans for several years after my kids were both in school themselves, but I just graduated with honors and I'll turn 29 in January. I'm still young enough to live my life, be a mom, and get a good job. Where there is a will, there is a way.
Wait another week, take another test, and then go from there. Good luck. =)
2006-09-03 18:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no.. you are not too young... but, I have to say, I think people should be married before having children. I am 19, I have been married over a year, I have already taken 2 years of college AND I am 7 months pregnant. You know the phrase... you can do anything you set your mind to.
2006-09-03 18:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him, if he dumps you then you are better off. I got pregnant at fifteen and when i told the father he too dumped me, it broke my heart, but ten years later and i couldn't be happier with out him in me and my son's life. Every thing will work out the way it is suppose to work out, and if your bf dumps you then he didn't truly love you in the first place. As far as college, that is a lot, but I did it at the age of eighteen with a toddler and an eight month old. you can do what ever you set your mind to.
2006-09-03 18:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are in a bad position. You should not have had a baby with someone who would leave you. I would say take a blood test. Get your answer and if you are pregnant, tell the dad. If you choose to not have the baby, keep in mind, all hospitals will take your new born baby, no questions asked. But if you made life, do not take it away. I had an abortion once. I will never forgive myself.
2006-09-03 18:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell your boyfriend.. say.. i have something really inmportant to talk to you about, and please dont get mad at me and be serious. and then tell him your story.. is the baby with him??? if its not.. then i think he has a reason to dump you.. but try to work it out... i think you shoukld have the baby no matter what.. dont have an abortion...my dads gf's daughter had a son when she was 17-18.. and she is fine.. she never went to college i dont think,.. but... maybe your mom can help you take care of the baby during college.
2006-09-03 18:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by Carly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him about it. Yes, you are too young, and since you assumingly aren't married, you should have waited. It's okay. I understand. My advice would be to have the baby (once you go to your ob/gyn and find out there really IS one). Whatever you do, DO NOT get an abortion. If you really don't want your child, put it up for adoption.
2006-09-03 18:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by crabbergal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well no mater what you decide you need to tell your bf casue it ishis baby too and you still can go to college.. to get maried casue your having a baby might be wrong.. but you still can rasie the baby together and if he dumb becasue your having baby that kinda means your bf diidnt eally love you in the first place..
2006-09-03 18:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by avocadoadam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋