How can i become emotionally intelligent?

Answer 1

There are courses on emotional inteligence
See in
http://www.training-classes.com/course_hierarchy/keyword_index/emotional.html

Answer 2

The best way to become emotionally intelligent is to read the book, Emotional Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman, and recognize that each of us has within us the fight-or-flight syndrome, which is an evolutionary adaptation to environment. This response is controlled by the amygdala, a small, almond shaped gland at the base of the brain that responds to potentially threatening stimuli by triggering a crisis reaction, i.e., fight or flight. By learning what stimuli tends to trigger this pulse - pounding, intense emotional reaction in you, you can learn to anticipate it and, through meditation, self-talk, and calming techniques, learn to short-circuit the unwanted and negative emotional response. This unwanted emotional response, also called a hijacking (of your reasonable self), is what gets us into trouble with others in social situations. Learning to control emotions by being smarter than your primitive, or reptilian, brain, is the whole strategy behind emotional intelligence. This process is not easy, but it does work. Good luck with it.

Answer 3

Emotional maturity comes with time. You are always growing on different levels. You grow physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. Perhaps your question shows that you are reaching a different level along one of those planes.
When things are going in synch...no problem, but if you are having difficulty making an adjustment...and only you know that for yourself
then seek help. It's there for you, and this isn't the forum for the resolution of those issues. That's how.

Answer 4

By emotional intelligence you mean not reacting to every single incident that causes you to react and rules your choices. Like being afraid, crying at little things, being a victim.

Emotional intelligents is a bit like being street smart, but on a much larger scale. We are human beings in an animal kingdom who by nature are trying to survive. We hurt each other easily because we're trying to get on top of the food chain (sad but true). Only the higher part of ourselves can see that we are playing a silly game of survival of the fittest, this means emotionally fit as well.

If we are effected by emotional issues we make our choices based on whether someone will hurt us. Being emotionally intelligent means being aware of this, not reacting and making choices that are free of emotions.

Being free of emotional reactions requires inner work and deconstruction of what you are conditioned by, ie your parents, your siblings, peers, school upbringing, society.

If you are truly interested in this subject try www.clairvision.org. This organisation deals directly with this subject as part of a teaching on meditation and inner sourcing.

Answer 5

"Hello Nine M!
Gosh girl, you're already emotionally intelligent! Think back to all the things you have learned about getting along with people ... Your husband, kids, parents, friends and acquaintences (teachers, counselors, doctors and nurses). It took enormous amounts of intelligence to interact with these folks in order to learn from them and the way you've written your question (openly, innocently and without guile) indicates your interest about evolving to higher levels of awareness and kinship with people. I believe your evolving right now! Your continually learning and have already achieved understanding beyond adolescence and teen years in asking your question.
It's my hope you find more than your looking for, so you might help others more."

Answer 6

Great question.

I try to think of myself as having a relaxed and vertical spine or axis. I am rooted to the earth and reach up to the heavens.

Difficult emotions and feelings drag me out of that vertical axis in one direction or another, and when that happens I react to an emotion from a distorted perception of who I am.

What I now do is to meditate on this vertical axis, whilst feeling whatever emotion or feeling I have at the time.
I don't try mentally or physically to come into the vertical, but allow my body to find its own way of becoming vertical. This takes great patience and trust in the ability of your body to know its true alignment. You will be able to observe your body slowly relaxing into the vertical, without any will on your part, except for the vision of the vertical axis.

What you will find is that as your body becomes aligned, you will be able to experience the emotion without being pulled by it. You will be able to deal with the situation with clarity and wisdom.

We cannot get rid of emotions and feelings, but we can find a way of functioning with compassion, even in the midst of our most difficult emotions.

Once you become practised, you will be able to revisit the most difficult emotions from your early life, the ones that have been holding you back all this time.

Answer 7

I really like your question.

I think it can be really simple to learn if you make the effort.

Just concentrate and really listen with all your heart and soul to the other person. Really pay attention and try not to be distracted by other things. After listening, you will really understand this person and I think that is what emotional intelligence is. To be able to understand what people are going through and then to be sympathetic and empathetic with them.

Good luck!

Answer 8

emotions deal with feelings, so if you truly care for others and not what others think of you then you can become emotionally intelligent

Answer 9

Emotinal intelligent how? You want to be able to precieve anothers emotional being or state? Understanding your own emotional state?

Take the time to understand situations going on around you. How should you feel about them and what are other people feeling.

Answer 10

I would suggest taking some classes in sociology, psychology, and communication studies. I majored in Business in college but I also minored in Speech Communications where I took alot of classes pertaining to relationships and emotional development. Those classes were extremely helpful and I think those would benefit you. If you think you need more one on one I would suggest seeking counseling because psychologist are good to talk to when you have emotional dilemmas, they are trained in it.

Answer 11

READ THE BOOK AND FIND OUT IF YOU FIT THE CRITERIA FIRST......
THERE IS SKEPTICISM ABOUT EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE....
YOU CAN'T BECOME EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PER SE..YOU NEED AN INATE SENSE OF EMPATHY AND UNDERSTANDG ALONG WITH A DIVERSITY IF ANYLITICAL SKILLS .......BUY THE BOOKS..GREAT READING AND LOTS OF INFO.......
i INTUIT THAT YOU ARE PROBABLY MORE
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