well i love my bf but my friends don't they think he's ugly and that he's discusting what should I do and when i asked him out he said yes but then my friends wouldn't talk to me they were mad why can't they just be happy for me but thier talking to me just barely i don't know what to do they want me to brake up with him or they wont tralk to me and weve been friends for a year and a half and plus they think were an ugly couple like no girly girl can date a gothic guy but i reallly like him and we've been bf and gf for a 1 in a half to 2 months please help me!!!
-Hayley/harrisonliker2006
2006-09-03 10:43:05 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, you say that you love this dude right? Then you should know what to do. If you truly like him you won't care about what anyone else thinks and you certainly wouldn't be asking this question because you would be so "sure" of your love for him. Besides, ever heard of the expression "opposites attract"? It applies perfectly to this situation: you love each other despite differences in style, etc. As for your friend's behaviour, I also have a few things to say:
1) If they're jealous or anything then ignore them. They'll get over it.
2) If they say you shouldn't be with a goth dude because you're girly then they don't know a single thing about love... nor would they know anything if it slapped them in the face.
3) Sometimes they're just worried about you so talk to them and open up about it. Maybe they're mad because of other reasons you didn't think of. If you've been friends that long then they should understand your feelings... if they don't, I think it's time to find new friends!
4) You don't even need my help for this question. Just ask your heart and whatever it tells you, then proceed to do so. Who cares about the rest of the world? Some people are just there to put you down because you have something they don't and since they can't have it then you can't either.
Anyways, good luck! Plus, your bf sounds like a hottie! I tend to go for the gothic genre too... goth boiz just have it all in my opinion!
2006-09-03 10:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♥TransylvanianVamp♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look sweetie just stay with him if your happy being with him your friends will either accept it or turn away from you and if they do that just b/c they don't like ur b/f they weren't your friends to begin with. trust me i half-way know what your going thought b/c my b/f is punk/Gothic and I'm the sweet preppy/happy go lucky kind of girl and my family hates him b/c the way he dresses and his music but he is the sweetest person I've ever dated despite what everyone else thinks i love him even though my friends and family don't like him and we are thinking about getting married when i turn 18 apr.30 he is also 17. hey you'll go thought hell in a hand basket before you know if it's ment to be between u and him and i wish the best of luck to and your boyfriend. i hope my advice does you good in which ever decision you make
2006-09-05 04:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by irishbaby_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, the question is, how do YOU feel about him??
I reccomend dumping these "friends". My boyfriend is SUPER skinny and a baller/skater and i'm a super girlygirl who isn't super skinny. I 'm kinda grateful that we got together because about five of my "friends" said we looked stupid together and all this stuff. and the other people said that they are happy that he makes me happy. THOSE ARE FRIENDS. Anyways, I reccomend getting him a jacket. Get like a red or blue one, and when you give it to him say "this reminded me of you" or "I saw this and thought how HOTT it would look on you". I reccomend the first one. He will probably appreciate the gift and wear it BECAUSE YOU GAVE IT TO HIM. But don't try to change him. lol
2006-09-03 10:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Bailee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if a guy is ugly. If you're friends are acting this way over a guy just because of his looks, and not something serious, then they aren't being very good friends. Just try talking to them about it, and try to get your point across. Maybe there's something more they don't like about him that doesn't involve his looks.
Best wishes, and God bless.
2006-09-03 10:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by *~*Carnival*~*Ride*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl ur friends are not nice...maybe u should tell them u really like this guy..that is if u do..they should accept u for whatever u chose to do and whoever u choose to date..cuz thats ur choice..and if they were ur real friends they wud accept that..and if something happens with ur guy and u..they sud be there for u instead of being mean.. u should either talk to them..or really get new friends..a lot can happen in a year ..people change..u dont find ur true friends in 1 year..and if u really like this guy..keep dating him..and it doesnt matter what clique u belong to and what clique he belongs to..and if he really likes u..and his friends accept u..then u could always hang out with them..hope that helped...good luck....oh and u should listen to avril lavinge's song sk8er boy..it seems to me ur situation is kinda like that...what if someday this guy becomes famous or something...wud u want him to be the 1 u let go? ...dont leave him if u really like him .. only leave him if u dont actually like him..man i know peer presure hurts..but when u get older u'll realize it's better not to have listened.
2006-09-03 10:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by baby_you-had-me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 20:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is the case their not true friends. Image is not everything. When they venture into the real world they will realize this. So he's different. Sounds like they are just trying to control you. You are your own person. Tell them that. You make your own choices and your choice is to be with him. If they can't accept that tell them to hit the road.
2006-09-03 10:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by summer love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This too will pass. You will love many bf's before you are done. Enjoy each one's differences and when you break up with this one just know that your friends will all be there to comfort you in your time of need.
2006-09-03 10:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about him, it doesn't matter what you're friends think or say about him. Just tell them that you don't want to lose them as friends over a guy and hope that they understand. If they don't, then it's obvious that they don't really care about you and you find new friends. Best of luck!
2006-09-03 10:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over your self omg! If you want to change him then break up with him thats not right! If you care that much whats your friends think then you dont deserve a boy friend!
2006-09-03 10:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋