My boyfriend left me 16 days ago. We were together for a while. I had a baby girl and he took her as his own. Well everything seemed to be going wonderful except we had both been laide off for a month. Then one day he tells me he didn't see our relationship going anywhere He said he loved me and I was a great person. He wasn't with another woman because he was always around. He packed his things and said that our baby will always be his daughter and he will see her all the time and I said that was great he could see her any time he wanted. While we got his things together he kept forgetting alot of things. He started crying before he left he gave me a kiss and hug and told me he loved me. This was very hard. Then he still left alot of things here but I haven't talked to him. I told his mom he recieved a check here and he has important things here. She said she would let him know. But I haven't heard from him. Whay would a man do this. Please only serious answers!!!
2006-09-03 10:09:43 · 4 answers · asked by shelly0042005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't say how old you are - however, I will tell youit sounds like you're young. 20's maybe? Guys in that age group are not as mature as their counterparts (girls) - they have a problem trying to maintain the same type of feelings long term and feel they need to spread their wings. In my mom's words from 30 years ago "if you love them, let them go - if they come back, they're meant to be - if not, they never were" It hurts - and trust me, my daughter is dealing with this now - but you will survive
2006-09-03 10:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by Been there 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously does not want the responsibility of a family. He cried because he felt bad. You sound young and this is why you don't have unprotected sex before marriage. Single parent homes are an epidemic and is so hard on the kid.
Already he's abandoned your daughter and doesn't come around. He's not mature enough to love you and her.
Get your life in order and move on. If he is around let him be there for the kid but you have to move on. You've put yourself in a bad spot. Also, don't make the same mistake twice. Don't have any more kids until you and your partner are committed and ready. Good luck.
You need to get real and move on.
2006-09-03 17:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless I knew the entire story who is to say only he knows exactly why he left... Well maybe his Mom now too . Give him more time he is still hurting too much to face you . Take care of that baby and be careful not to take any of this out on her. You know by not paying her enough attention . She will feel your sorrow and will cry a little more for a while , just love her . When he gets himself together he will be back to talk and see the baby . Good luck, and GOD bless you. I'll think of you , and hope for the best .
2006-09-03 17:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you took your baby girl as her own did he take her or just claimed her as his?
2006-09-03 17:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by taylor h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋