i have been with my partner for 3 years now, but there is no love or sex there now. im thinking of having a affair? i have needs to.what do i do?
2006-09-03 09:58:19 · 46 answers · asked by martin p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your thinking of having an affair then you should probably just go ahead and get a divorce, because yes, no matter what the sitaution an affair is wrong.
2006-09-03 10:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get some counseling with your partner. It is wrong to have an affair. Remember the saying everyone does not love each other all the time.... it just one of you have to be in love when the other is not... It goes something like that. Just think of why you loved them in the first place. An Affair is never going to solve your problems. It will only make things worse. You might as well end things than to hurt the other person and then live with the guilt of what you are doing. Try to hide the affair can be very tiring
2006-09-03 10:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by lschuler22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having an affair is the worse thing you can do.
If you have no love for your partner, leave them.
What the point in cheating? How do you know the other person you will cheat with will not want the world and marriage as soon as you bother have sex, as some people are very emotional and clingy like that. What will you acheive by having an affair, how do you know that you will not fall in love with the mistress and she is not playing you or screwing around and not using protection?
You may even end up with a Glenn Close from Fatal Attraction for a mistress, how do you like them apples!
2006-09-07 06:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Rebz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing right about having an affair, and there are no reasons to justify one either. It is wrong, plain and simple. If you feel your realtionship with your partner has run its course then you need to talk to them about it. Chances are they may feel the same way too and you can part on amicable terms. And then there won't need to be any sordid affairs because you will not be attached to a partner.
Having an affair is an easy option to take, but are you going to be a bigger person and do the right thing by talking to your partner?
2006-09-07 01:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - affairs are wrong!!!! So don't go down that road. If after only 3 years you feel the relationship is dead, then you have to sort things out with your partner before you even think about trying to get into another relationship. Too many inplications, too many things can go wrong. Be single before you start looking elsewhere. Do things in the right order. You're conscience will always be there.
2006-09-03 11:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what why don't you leave your partner then? Because it's wrong to have an affair. If you don't love your partner anymore, just leave. Does your partner still have feelings for you? Do you just want to have an affair for the excitement of sneaking around behind your partner's back? That just wrong.
You know I'm not going even going to answer this question. Just do want you want. Men usually do.
2006-09-03 10:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by darkhunterfan65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you like your partner to have an affair without you knowing just because they "have needs"
This is unfair, and a bit shallow, talk it through if its not working out then come to some kind of agreement.
Dont go behind their back give her/him more respect, i think after 3 years she/he will have at least earned that from you.
Dont do the dirty, "marbles will always roll down the hill"
All the best, and if it dosent work out then i hope you can both move on with no hard feelings.
2006-09-04 09:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your partner if things cannot be sorted out then leave and start a new relationship. Affairs only cause heartache and misery, best to be honest and sort things out properly. Your partner is probably miserable too and its time to confront all your problems together even if this means the end of your relationship.
2006-09-03 10:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by jean m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If theres no love and no sex then why do you stay. Wouldn't it be better for you both if you just left and found someone else then you'd have nothing to feel guilty about and you wouldn't have to sneak about.I don't think it would be fair on you or your partner if you had an affair. Good luck with what ever you decide.
2006-09-03 10:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. so let me get this right, you do not have love for your partner, there's no sex going on, and you have needs.
My question is, why are you still with your partner? Stop wasting your time, your partner's time and move on to someone else. Who knows, your partner may feel the same way you do especially if you are not making an effort in showing love and affection.
2006-09-03 10:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋