Especially at work, I am new in this place, so I really don't know anybody yet. But there is this girl that I just don't feel like we could ever be friends and just to be nice to is just like pulling teeth.
I don't know why but I feel like she feels the same exact thing. Why is this?
Then there are some that in a brief moment you think you might have found a best friend.
I just wonder if others have felt like they couldn't stand someone they didn't know and why it happens?
2006-09-03 09:51:34 · 21 answers · asked by Esoteric 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yeah my dear Preacher 55, not meet, but like have to work next too for the next year. We are teachers and we have to plan curriculums, book break downs, classroom management and other vital classroom information on a continual basis.
She knows the routine of that school since she has been there a few years and is supposed to show me the ropes but all I've been shown is a standoffish attitude.
2006-09-03 10:16:23 · update #1
Yes - what you experienced is fairly normal.
Some people just have diametrically opposing personalities...and this can be determined pretty quick into a conversation. You're on one end, she's on the other. Hence the dislike.
2006-09-03 09:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by The ~Muffin~ Man 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's ok to dislike this person for whatever reason you have. As many people have written, it's a gut feeling or intuition. However, since you work together and need each other, I think you have to find a way to overcome your feeling. Well, maybe not overcome your feeling, but a way to not let your feeling get in the way of doing your job and learning the ropes from your colleague.
Good luck!
2006-09-04 00:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i've met plenty of people i didn't like, right off the bat i got negative vibes from them. But, i've learned, that you don't have to like everybody! the important thing is that you're able to work with them, and respect their opinions without letting your dislike clout your judgment. also, it is very important to keep in mind that first impressions are extremely difficult to change, so try to notice positive things about the person rather than focusing on the negatives, and maybe you'll grow to like the person more and more :)
2006-09-03 16:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by MIzzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh definitely. I have met a few people I instantly didn't like. I am very good with first impressions, and even if the people are very nice I can tell they are faking it. True colors always come out eventually. I don't know why it happens though. Maybe you had problems with each other in a past life.
EDIT:
Since i just received an insulting email in reference to my JOKE about past lives... IT WAS A JOKE
2006-09-03 09:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm sure every ones felt that way at some point in their life!The problem is that your not at school,so you have to be an adult about it!Just be nice,I'm not saying you have to be friends!But,since you just started this job that could look really bad towards your boss and other co-workers!Good Luck!
2006-09-03 10:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetheart 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Totally its normally instinct or gutt telling you they are not nice. try to get to know thwm first but 9 times out of 10 the first opinion is normally the correct one.
I got to know someone at work i was the trainer and she was the trainee then she started to nick all my ideas to try and swap that sinareo over the freindship did not last
2006-09-03 09:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lost....Eve 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to give her a chance first. Yes we all have met these kind of people. But i always try to be nice to them. Don't get to close to her because, you can bet your intuition may be right on the spot, so watch out for her! But be nice to her, Hope this makes since.
2006-09-03 10:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my profession all the time,theres nothing you can do about it you cant change people,some are jealous and others are just plain nasty,dont let them get you down and dont let them bring you down to their level,be better than them and stick it out,I know what you are going through.Good luck
2006-09-04 02:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter where I go or who I'm with-there is someone I meet that I know right of the bat will be just as unwilling to even say hello to me as I am to them. It's that instinct-that gut feeling telling you that it's obvious you dislike each other-or dislike like her/he because you can just sense that she/he is up to no good!
2006-09-03 10:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
here's what I usually do..when I meet someone new...I always say "hello"..if I see a smile from that person...then I know how they feel by the expression on their face ...but to dislike someone because you don't know them is ridiculous..
2006-09-03 10:22:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋