Other women intimidate me, how do I deal with this?

Question

I am a very nice person, very friendly and I don't always get that back in return. I don't understand women. I'm an only child and I moved around a lot when I was younger and have not had the opportunity to build relationships with other girls and as an adult I'm having trouble figuring them out. I don't like to trash other women or complain about stuff like I hear other women doing. I cannot relate to women... pls help.

Answer 1

I don't know actually - I find it hard too -
But I guess all you can do is just be yourself - don't stoop to their level - it's a good thing you don't want to trash other women. Eventually you'll meet some women who have the same values as you. Maybe the ones you know now will come to value you for not being bitchy.
The best way to relate to people is just to be interested in them and act as though you like them. If you're intimidated by them, just take one step at a time, like start off with little conversations here and there, and build up to going for drinks and stuff. If they're complaining about other people, you could just change the subject. Good luck:)

Answer 2

Well, unfortunatly, your thinking more like a man than a woman. My husband & I were just talking about this. I was amazed to find that men don't sit around & worry about what other's think. They literally think nothing. On the other hand, we women, well, we can TALK. Gossiping is a major way females bond. Of course, the other way is having something in common. I'm finding that I have a friend that's a TOTAL Drama Queen. Frankly, I don't want to hear the gossip & I'm totally fed up with her. If you pick girls like this, you will end up feeling the same because your not a drama queen. They tend to flock together better.
I would probably stick with co-ed activities. Ones that don't cater to women only. That way, you can still have guys around to chat with if the women end up being only the gossipy ones.
It's very hard. I know my biggest problem is I'm too honest. It has cost me a couple of friendships because I just look at the person & tell them they're really acting stupid (drama queen, etc...) because I'd rather not be around it. You may not be as forward, but you'll probably find yourself thinking the same things.

Answer 3

Women don't know what they are missing sometimes! I moved
away from my hometown many years ago and when I first came
back a lot of the women were not friendly to me. I am an extrovert and wouldn't accept that. They are good women, but
I have since found that a few of them are very unsure in a social
situation. We have a group that meets once a week and now they
are all pretty much, like where were you, why wasn't you here.
It may take a bit of time to build a friendship but it's sure worth it.

Answer 4

i can relate. almost every year of school was a new school. alway moving never realy set roots anywhere. i like to think am stronger and wise, but it is lonely foolishness. being a vagabon, gypsy, the new kid, a stranger is hard. other have grown up with
friends and a personal culture than we have missed.

Being on the outside looking in is different from being on the inside looking out.

Answer 5

When they look you up and down, just say hello. That throws them off. They probably are trying to feel better about their hidden imperfections. Say "Hey. How are you?" Try to chat a little some girls will talk back. Sooner or later, that same girl who was giving you the evil eye will be the girl who stops to say hi to you in the supermarket.

Answer 6

Good question. I feel that way too sometimes. I don't know the answer. I guess maybe it is the people who you are around. Be selective in choosing good friends and know the differences in friends and acquaintances. It is hard to trust people. Get to know them slowly by just hanging out or talk to some that you work with or ones in your organizations or whatever you are in.

Answer 7

Welcome to the real world. Unfortunately, woman can be stuck up but if your in a area w/ a lot of woman then try to find the one that's by herself or something. Maybe she too is looking for a friend...but woman will be woman just learn to accept it and never ever show your intimidated..good luck!

Answer 8

Alot of women have very low self esteem issues even the pretty ones. They want you to feel bad about yourself, cause they do. I know what you mean. Women can be vicious.

Just be yourself. If they don't like it that is their misfortune.

Answer 9

Don't change yourself just for others. Some women are like that (not many girl friends). Don't sweat it, you'll make friends that can appreciate who you are. Good luck.

Answer 10

You need to have confidence in yourself. Find stuff about yourself that you like and that you are proud of, such as your sense of humor, or you like you booty, or whatever. It sounds like you compare yourself too much! If people don't show the respect you show them that is their problem, not yours!