What didn't kill you make stronger?

Question

What do you think? I've seen some cases make ones bitter instead of stronger.

Answer 1

I think it depends on the type of person and their outlook on life. Also, it depends on the nature of the occurrence because a certain experience can drive someone to be a recluse. So I think you can learn from many different occurrences in your life which can without a doubt make you stronger. But some life experience can cripple a person mentally - making it very difficult to overcome it.

Answer 2

Even though those people were bitter, they are stronger. Any one who hasnt succombed to somthing bad (drugs, family problems or even fighting) comes out stronger in the end.

Theres actually a scientifical answer for this as well. Humans are odd creatures, anything that does kill us (and is repairable) comes back stronger then it was before. For example, cartilidge.

I have gone through many, many things in my life. Never stepping down and pushing on through made me a stronger person. Bitterness can always be cured too ya know.

Answer 3

If you have strong morals and have a high IQ with a understanding heart it makes you stronger. Yet there is a down side to becoming stronger. If you become too strong and immune you will stick out like a sore thumb. Above the main stream of society. As a result people are subliminally/subconsciously drawn to you. If you become so strong you are immune to attacks, people can do almost anything to you and its legal by government standards. Its a big boo hoo from the human race. Because you are immune to attacks and expected to handle it in a superior way the paradox continues as if they never did anything. In other words it can even help you conquer the fear of dying. You know who you are!

Answer 4

That famous line is a lame excuse for lack of sympathy, empathy and being full of contempt.

What doesn't kill you does not always make you stronger, sometimes it can make you weaker.

I always use physical and graphical examples to disprove this ages old popular twisted logic.

If somebody cuts your arms and legs off but a surgeon comes right after and stops the bleeding. Sure you're not dead, sure it didn't kill you but now you lost everything.

Do you honestly thing that a man without his arms and legs is stronger than a man that has it all ?

Same thing for the rest of life. What didn't kill you, if it took away something from you, it made you weaker.

I just hate senseless and pointless urban legends like the one you spelled to us.

Answer 5

It's all about how you respond to the pressure. If you respond with despair, resignation, bitterness, a crushed spirit,...then it won't make you stronger.
But if you respond with trust, acceptance, hope, look for help from others in a way that's humble, refuse to get hardened & bitter, allow it to make you more patient and empathetic towards others who hare having a hard time, then it can make you into a person who has experience and who has learned something.

Answer 6

I agree .
This phrase is complete ********.
Say some person was hit by a brick in the back and became a quadriplegic,
Now he can't move, and is basically a vegetable.
How did that make him stronger?

Answer 7

I think some people read too literally into that question. For me, it's not a physical strength and it's not a strength that everyone finds. I've been through nearly every "talk show episode" there is and yes, there is alot in this world that can break a person's resolve to keep trying but it's when you give up the fight, that the situation really kills you.

People can become bitter and negative but I believe its the strong ones that make it their business to keep trying and refuse to let their hearts freeze. It's a personal choice and attitude, or a faith and determination or maybe they just don't know anyother way then to keep moving past the difficult times. They still believe in others, and life, God and themselves and the idea that better things will come their way.

In my life, I was neglected, abused, molested, raped, beaten constantly to the point of black eyes and concussions every week, bullied all by the time I graduated from high school.

In the past 11 years, I've been hurt and abandoned by those I believed in and loved the most, falsely accused of an accident that left a good friend dead and me forever scarred and temporarily disabled, was sexually propositioned by an adoptive father who was never there growing up and left solely in charge of his funeral, found a birth"monster" who I opened my heart for and she tried to use me, steal from me, threaten me and turn me into someone just like her. I opened my home to my birthsister only to find she wanted to steal from me too. I found my exhusband punching my baby in the stomach and escalate to the most horrific man I have ever met who then beat and strangled me in front of all of my children.

In the past year, I picked up the pieces and fell in love with someone I wanted to build a future with...the person I can say I felt more for than anyother man I'd ever been involved with - until I'm proven wrong, "the one!" He made me see and feel so many things in a different way and helped me become as strong as I am today only to watch him walk away too. Every mother's nightmare happened to my daughter Memorial Day weekend and she had lost control since. I have found that maybe I shouldn't trust anyone except the people who I work with and really barely know but yet they have proven to be people I can count on through the worst. I now consider my family to be made up of my children and associates.

So what do I do with all of this? I love. I love the ones who hurt me, remember the good moments, and then forget those people so they can't hurt me anymore, I love the ones who walked away and smile at their pictures sincerely wishing them all the happiness in the world, and I love my daughter more than ever and keep searching for what will make things better between us, and its working more everyday...because I won't get bitter - I don't know how - because fighting to survive and to be happy and waiting for that love to be returned is the only thing I know how to do. People have said its amazing I'm even functional after the life I had. I always answer, "Why? Because I keep going...what other choice is there?"

Everytime one of these things happened, I didn't think at first I could get past it, but I'm not dead, I'm still here! And everytime something new comes up, it seems tougher but I remember that everything seems unbearable when you're going through it and not so bad once it's in the past. That's what strength means to me. So as you can see I am a very firm believer in, "What doesn't kill you, really does make you stronger."

MAYBE INNER STRENGTH IS ALOT STRONGER AND WILL CARRY YOU FURTHER THAN PHYSICAL STRENGTH:
If you prefer to look at it in a physical sense...try thinking about it in another way. Suppose you had a physical ailment such as disease, or a devastating injury...like your leg was amputated in a horrific accident. Would you cower and wither in a corner, filled with agony, despair and self-pity over the way your life has changed? Or will you cry, catch your breath, process and soul-search, and then strive to work hard and be as efficient if not more so than what you were before the accident?

So maybe I'm stubborn or I just don't quit but I believe if you "strive to thrive," you just might find that you really are tougher, smarter, and braver than you ever thought and you'll also see a multitude of reasons for being alive...and so now let me ask you, how could that really make you weaker than before?

Answer 8

I agree with you. What is not killing me is causing me a tremendous amount of stress, so much so that my body is falling apart on me. I dont feel stronger and wonder why people use the aforementioned cliche to try and make me feel better. In you, I think you understand what I mean! Great question!

Answer 9

it did not kill you and i think it means your stronger in mind but i am sorry for the one who did not get stronger.

Answer 10

its sorta true to an extent that you learn from the experience so even if your left crippled you appreciate life more with a near dodge of death and everyones seen the miracle stories about people less fortunate doind amazing leaps of talent that an average joe couldn't, its al relative but to an extent its true enough for me to use it.