Okay, here's the thing: this guy is like my father's age, and he's actually a friend of my father's. I see him at like weddings and formal occasions like that, and every time I see this guy it creeps me out to no extent. he's always just staring at me...always talking to my parents about what i'm doing in college etc etc..once (at a wedding) i went to get my purse from a table and he grabbed my hand..which totally freaked me out...he was grinning the whole time..this guy is married okay...and then yesterday i saw him at a gathering and he came over to me when my parents weren't there and put his hand on my back and was just talking to me...i dont want to say anything to my parents about him because its embarressing...its not like im extremely pretty or anything so why is this guy going after me of all people? and what should i do? help!
2006-09-03 09:23:15 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I definitely suggest telling your parents. I know that it's embarassing, but this guy could be a molester or predator. He's married and hitting on a teen --there is definitely something wrong here. If you don't trust your parents, I suggest telling another adult that you trust, such as a teacher, counselor, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or even your friend's mother. Also, I suggest that you avoid him. Whenever he gets near, go stand beside your parents, friends, siblings, boyfriend or other people you trust and know. Never be alone with this man. He could be a rapist.
2006-09-03 09:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his wife at these occasions go up and talk to her first at every occasion ask how she is? Let him see you directly building a relationship with her, this will probably scare her off. If nothing else works tell your parents and never leave yourself alone, stick with your parents when he is around! This guy is a creep and don't put yourself in an uncomfortable situation! Don't worry about this guy he is a jerk and doesn't matter, don't fall pray to him. Never worry about a sicko but stand up for yourself. Atleast tell your Mom and good luck!
2006-09-03 16:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to intimidate you, dear, and he's succeeding. Yes, he's also preying on you. The calls for drastic measures. Here is what you do. The next time he comes close to you, stick out your hand like you're telling him to stop. Then tell him, "I'm not comfortable around you. Please leave me alone or I'll tell my Dad you are being inappropriate with me. Thank you. " That should do it! Then walk away because he will spit and sputter and try to ask "what did I do?"...and that sort of thing. He won't be expecting any confrontation from you, so use it your advantage. If he trys to touch you, start screaming and fall down. I swear, he'll never do it again! Godloveya.
2006-09-03 16:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its that bothersome- I suggest telling your parents since he is a family friend and asking for their advise. But if you want to take care of it yourself, next time he does anything like that, just look him in the eye and say "please don't do that" or "that is uncomfortable for me".
And he's not going after you. He probably finds you attractive or endearing and is just showing that.
I personally think just keeping your distance is enough, if he grabs your hand just pull it away. If he touches your back pull away. That'll signal that you feel uncomfortable because... it sounds like you've LET it happen (put his hand on my back and was just talking to me) you should've pulled away and turned to face him to talk right away, and this isn't your fault, you were probably frozen and not sure what to do.
2006-09-03 16:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to go to your parents and tell them everything because we had the same thing happen in our family and come to find out this relative was a real child molester and they were trying to protect us but he found away to get to us behind their backs . He tracked us and followed us down to the store it could have ended badly but we went straight to our parents they fixed it we never saw him again
2006-09-03 16:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents and tell them this guy is making you uncomfortable and explain in detail to them as to why. If they should happen to not do anything and brush off your concerns and you see this guy again, go off on him and let it be known that under no circumstances is to ever touch you or ogle you again and you want him to leave you completely alone.
2006-09-03 17:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom alone , tell that this guy is making you uncomfortable. You don't have to be specific about him touching you, but tell her it just doesn't feel right, and it's starting to scare you.
Show some faith in your mom as a confidant.
Try that first. Most moms will jump right into action!
2006-09-03 16:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with cats4ever2k1 but I think you could carry it a bit further.
Confront the man tell him how you feel and want him to stop. Let it be his choice. Let him know you are ready willing and able to tell his wife, your parents and anyone else that could result in a very uncomfortable situation for him.
2006-09-03 16:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by fred f 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...well as long as it don't go to far you can just deal with it on your own... You just have to cut him some disgusted looks or leave when he comes around... to make your point or you could just speak up...... tell him you are not interested and if he continues tell him you will be forced to tell your parents or better yet his wife..... im sure he will back off then..
2006-09-03 16:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remind him that youre still Daddys little girl and ask him if he would like for you to tell Daddy whats happening here? An d proceed to tell him that Daddy just loves unwanted guys hitting on his little girl, friends or not. If he keeps on coming, just tell Daddy that his friend scares the hell out of you and why. Itll end. Good luck
2006-09-03 16:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋