I used to be backstabbed all the time buy this mean friend of mine.. i was a loner at school so i hung with her who was the other loner.. we met since grade one. She was soo mean to me, and she kicked me everysingle day, pulled alot of my hair off and she almost killed me buy trying to drown me. i always had dreams of being popluar one day so i could dump her. but then i started backstabbing her alot to and i got in the habbit of doing it to alot of people i didnt like much.. i said alot of sh!t about them that i made up. Until last year i 've changed schools met this girl and told other people she said alot of sh!t about them... she was kinda mean to me at first so i thought she was... but i got to know her and she was like the nicest person on earth but were not that close i just hang with her now... i feel so mean but i quit backstabbing people aready. but i still feel so bad about what i did. good thing shes popular now.. but does it make me a bad person?
2006-09-03 08:44:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Listen to the Mary J Blige song.... called No More Drama. It might help you out. Until then try some tape over your mouth!
2006-09-03 08:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by purple rain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you a bad person..but it does mean that you made some bad choices. I hope you learned that you can't treat people badly just because you were treated badly. You brought yourself down to the other girls level and became something like her. If you didn't like the way she treated you why would you want to treat people the same way? But, since you said you stopped backstabbing...your on the right path. From now on just try and think things through before you decide anything. And being popular isn't the most important thing in the world..I know you are young and thinking that way is hard...but having a few really quality friends is very important. You want a friend...a real friend not just someone who will hang around you because its the thing to do at that moment..but someone who will still hang around with you even if it isn't... I hope you understood that.
Blessings...
2006-09-03 15:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bethie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's good that u stopped backstabbing because the exact thing that u didn't like when it was happening to u, you were doing it to other people just because of the hurt that u had from this other person. U know, u don't have to be a loner. Sometimes u have to put yourself out there and introduce yourself to people instead of having people kind of drift over to you because it may not be a good person that is starting to hang out with you, just like the previous girl. I would have seriously put a whoopin on her tho, the first time she put her hands on me trying to harm me. You can't let people mess over you, but u can't mess over people either. I don't think ur a bad person.
2006-09-03 16:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by lilmzAI aka basketball shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a rule of life is that jerks don't know they're a jerk.
Just by the fact that you've recognized you were doing something wrong, indicates that you're not as bad as you may think. The big thing however, is that you've quit doing it altogether, or are doing your best not to do it.
I think honest regret, and making a positive change, is a good thing. You're not a bad person, you just did some bad things. That's true with pretty much everybody.
2006-09-03 15:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by d h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Backstabbing is not a nice thing and people lose trust in someone who is a backstabber. If you have already stopped doing this, you could fess up and apologize. Just make sure you never do it again. Or no one will ever trust you. Make sure you explain your reasons.
2006-09-03 15:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by RITA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you do need to stop all the backstabbing otherwise you are a bad person and what goes around comes around remember that.
2006-09-03 15:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your experience with your first so-called friend made you angry and you became mean as a kind of defense. Now you have learned how to behave in a positive way so you deserve credit for that. Maybe you could apologize to the person you were mean to and tell her that you have changed.
2006-09-03 15:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Athrodite, congratulations on your change of heart. That was step 1. Step 2 is a little harder. You should write her a short letter apologising and asking her to forgive you. She will and you can have a fresh start. Well done.............
2006-09-03 15:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read What you just wrote. And think about it. You will see what kind of a person you are.
2006-09-03 15:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't a horrible person...... Sometimes people just get into horrible habbits..... at least you realized your mistake.
2006-09-03 15:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ @I_i ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋