To be very honest, I have fallen in love to a married woman, who is also in love with me. The only barrier between our love is the commandments from Society, the sense of harm to her husband and life long sympathy for her husband if he also really love my beloved. My intention is not to ask her to divorce her husband, but since she is agree enough that she will maintain the balance between 'family duties and our true...... love', my last but not the least query is that is loving her sin?
2006-09-03 08:30:23 · 38 answers · asked by computersir 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, that is adultery.
2006-09-03 08:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you say, “Is it a sin” Do you mean is it wrong??? Now to give you a clearer picture of what you will consider wrong, let us look at it like this. Are you married ‘computersir???’ ‘ Well if you are, just suppose your wife was having an affair with another guy. Will you react as if she and he are doing anything wrong??? Or will you say, “Go ahead guys, love can never be a sin.” Now if you are not married then just imagine any other married female in your family in a similar predicament. Would you consider their actions wrong (sinful) or beautiful and right? Remember every woman is somebody’s mother, sister, wife etc. and should be treated with the same respect and dignity, as you would like for your womenfolk. Even if the woman is game and willing, you have a responsibility to her marriage vows by virtue of being a fellow human being. You will be committing a sin against humanity.
2006-09-03 09:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're going by the ten commandments, yes it is a sin.
But there is more you need to look at. Right now, you don't have the stresses of everyday life in your relationship. You are sneaking around hidding and the sex is very ****** and exciting. But how would you feel if she had another lover as well? She very well could and you'd never know. Or what if she left her husband and married you and then had another lover? If you continue a relationship with her you will eventually have trust issues in your relationship. She is not faithful and honest with the man she vowed to be faithful and true to, this will be an issue that affects your relationship in the furture if you choose to continue it. You will end up hurt but it will be your own doing.
2006-09-03 08:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcalabamian 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is not a Sin. But ask yourself, is it really Love ??? No. I think you both are attracted towards each other.
She has already agreed that she will maintain the balance between 'family duties and our true...... love' which means she actually don't want you through out her life. Also, you have yourself agreed that you dont want her to Divorce. So i come on the conclusion that its a attraction between you and her. I feel, you should keep away from her and if you dont do that, then, you are ruining her life as well as yours.
2006-09-03 09:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you asking? You know that adultery is a sin according to many religions. Perhaps you should put yourself in her husband's shoes. What would you do if your love and trust were betrayed, as this man's will be? What kind of a person is this woman to treat her husband this way? I think there are a lot of single women around and they are enough trouble to handle in a relationship. Why engage in this intrigue, hurt this woman's family and take up with someone that you may not respect for long, since she is, in fact, a betrayer?
2006-09-03 08:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by TxSup 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing that someone should be considering is whether the idea of sin is actually real.
If God is supposed to be perfect how could She have made anything or anyone that wasn't perfect.
Think about it. The idea of sin assumes certain things about God that seem highly unlikely.
First it assumes a God who is too incompetent to organize a simple educational field excursion and figure out a way to get all of the students home safely.
How likely is this that God would not be smart enough to come up with a plan for our salvation that is going to work?
It also assumes that God must have created us imperfect if we are sinners.
One might assume that God would be able to create someone perfect each and every time if he chose to. Assuming God is capable of this, then it follows logically that we must be perfect creations if we are actually creations of this perfect God.
Unless of course you are saying that God chose to create us imperfect.
If God created us imperfect then anything that may go wrong is Gods fault, not ours. This seems a bit illogical at best so I think that we need to assume that What God creates would have to be perfect.
If this is the case and Gods creations are perfect, then nothing that we can do could change what God created perfect and make it imperfect unless we think that we are more powerful than God is.
How likely is it that we the creation could be more powerful than the creator. I personally find this idea somewhat amusing, and a bit absurd.
Religion tells us that God is perfect. If this is true then it could hardly be logically for Gods creations to be considered to be anything less than perfect.
If this is the case then Nothing that we can ever do could possibly change this perfection that God willed, unless we were so powerful that our choices could override and change the will of God.
How likely is that????
Think about it.
The idea of sin is simple nonsense; a lie made up about God by religion.
Love and blessings
don
Source --- Course in miracles
2006-09-04 01:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you beleive in the bible or you are religious then yes you are sinning. In my opinion even if you are not religious what you are doing is not right. If it were right why would you have to hide it? And you will never have her fully because she has a family. So you will be spending holidays alone because she will be elsewhere with family and friends that she can't tell about you. It will take a toll on the both of you eventually. She may even get a divorce and be with you then you'll wonder when she goes out alone if she's seeing someone else
2006-09-03 08:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it is sin it is mentioned in various holy scripture like holy bible,al quran, vedas, upanisheds an these is bez u must not look with eyes of lust, adultery,forenification an as far society concerns it is sin becz u want sex with her body anshe also the same an she is married to some other male an had sex an love with her an this world is so big u want to marry preferable marry a virigin an enjoy the life with fear from god who is seeing the action of u an me an whole worlds fear from judement day which has to come an the whole world humans will be parted into good people an bad people
2006-09-03 09:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither of you will ever be truly happy as long as she is married! This is a losing relationship all around.There is a such thing as sin. People sin all the time but its not the right thing to do. Problem is the way you are living will continue to make you unhappy and its not a good thing.
Your helping her emotionally but mentally it
will tear you down. She is the selfish one. I don't blame you for needing someone. If it were possible you should drop her like a hot rock.
2006-09-03 08:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Without going into the Biblical aspects of it, YES it IS a sin to be involved with another while still married. It shouldn't be about society. It should be about your moral obligations to your spouse and family. U are being selfish and so is the woman you're cheating with. When your spouses find out, do u realize how many people you're going to be hurting? You're not only going to hurt your spouses but if u have children, u will be hurting them as well.
2006-09-03 08:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES! UNOQUIVICALLY IT IS!
You are making her commit adultery! If you were concerned for her well being, her SOUL, then you would break it off!
If you had respect for her husband, then you would break it off...
You are being selfish, because she is the one that will suffer, from losing her family, and her adulterous affair with you, may and can ruin her reputation!
Dont give me that "my beloved", she is not YOURS to be beloved to! She did not promise to hold you above all others! She didnt promise to you in sickness and health, til death do you part!
You are a user. Of course you dont want her to leave her husband! You basically are having your cake and eating it too!!
You are a pariah on Society, for using this woman. I pray that she wisens up and sees you for the "user" you really are!
True love.. "You" dont know the meaning of "true love"! You are basically fulfilling your "lust" for yourself, with this woman's body, and it satisfies your immediate needs.
True love is going through the rough spots in a marriage. The good and the bad, the ups and downs, lean and good times, babies crying, and diaper changes, runny noses and staying up all night because the child has a fever and is cranky. THATS TRUE LOVE!!!
What you have is nothing! The husband has it all, and you are stealing from him!
Wisen up and get out of this relationship for the womans sake... and her familys sake!
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-09-03 08:39:20 · answer #11 · answered by x 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋