I don't know for sure if I am, and I am really scared that if I really am what might happen to my whole life. I'm not that old, never had many relationships, but have had feelings for people of the same sex. I have been asked out by girls that my friends consider "hot". I just don't know if I find women atractive. This is really worrying me. Also, I'm not sure how the students at my school would react if I did come out of the closet. What should I do?
2006-09-03 08:10:06 · 24 answers · asked by some guy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Be true to your natural attractions. Don't force yourself to be anything you aren't. If you aren't straight, don't force it. Acceptance as a gay person may sometimes be hard to come by, but trust me, suppressing your genuine self will be much more detrimental.
You should be able to search for a GLBT youth helpline for whatever area you live in. There's a PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays) chapter just about everywhere... try looking for one.
By the way, sick puppie is wrong. It's not true that "you're only gay if you do gay things". Straight people are straight when they aren't having straight sex. A man is still straight even if he hasn't "gotten any" in weeks, months, years, etc. The same goes for gay people. Your sexual orientation is NOT contingent upon how many people you're involved with or how much.
2006-09-03 08:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Fill out this questionare:
1.) When you get erections from thinking of people and sex with them- are these people male or female?
2.) Do you look at men and admire their physical features in a sexual way? what about women?
3.) When you masturbate and fanatsize about sex, is it with a man or a woman?
After answering these three questions, you should know if you're gay or not. It's that simple. Can't decide? Maybe you're bi! Whatever it is, get used to it and get over it real fast. Anyone you tell who has a problem with it wasn't ever a real friend to you anyways. I came out of the closet full blown in my junior year and it was awesome. You can't just walk around being like "i'm gay i'm gay....hello...i'm gay." that's stupid. I did it just like the heteroes; i never told anyone. ijust treated them like they know. This guy would be like- man she's hot. and i'd just say- no...her BOYFRIEND is the hot one.... it made life much easier because people seem to not get offended when you don't worry about whether or not they will. if you're normal about they usually will be too.
2006-09-03 16:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Brento! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should try contacting someone that you can talk to about this. "Gay" isn't a death sentence and there is nothing about it that will adversly affect your life unless you let it(but the same could be said for heterosexuality, are you planning on college and working or just spending the rest of your life chasing women? See what I mean?). School, is a different animal. In "my day" I wouldn't come out simply because of the homophobia prevelant at the time as well as the reactions from the school staff. It's supposedly different now.
Try contacting groups like PFLAG that can point you in directions of people you can talk to about your concerns. Good luck!
2006-09-03 15:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being scared is an indication that something is not right in what you are thinking. Subconsciously you know that being gay is wrong, and thats why it is bothering you. So get that thinking out of your head and start dating women. When ever such thoughts occur avoid it by doing something else. Do not listen to what others may say. Ask your heart and you will know the answer. Good luck.
2006-09-07 11:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by CuriosCAT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ain't gay since that is a term that has come to discribe a lfiestyle, and therefore people attract to it because they, either had feelings like you do, or they have fallen into a same sex relationship. That is the past and does not dictate the future unless you choose to let it go into tomorrow. If I poop in the back yard doesn't mean I am a back yard pooper unless I decide to do it regularly. Even then the title is only in relation to a past expeience, unless I am pooping in the back yard and typing on my laptiop at the same time. Just because you had a thought or are having thoughts right this moment that indicate a sexual preferance for the same sex, you still haven't crossed that bridge yet so why would you want a title? I would say come to the Now moment and visit with God for a moment and then proceed forward. God lives in the now and He is not going to send you out of the moment with addiction to sex or anything else. It would have to be what you chose before you came to the moment. Now if you decide to take it with you or somehow subconciously it attaches its self to you, then you may need to learn how to spiritually release yourself from the past and also learn how to not take what was, into the future. Only God can deliver you from stinking thinking.
2006-09-03 15:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by happylife22842 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Experiment with your sexuality, just don't do it at school if you are feeling insecure about the reactions you will get. Try going out with a hot girl first, if it doesn't work, well at least you know this is not working for you.
2006-09-05 07:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by Ichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no problem about being gay. I say, if you think you might have feelings towards the same sex, then go for it. You shouldn't worry about what other people say. be proud.
2006-09-03 15:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by -♡Pookie♡- 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your medical doctor. He/she can point you in the right direction for someone to talk to.
Sometimes it's just mixed up emotions. Sometimes it's something else. As far as the students at your school go, don't worry about telling them...at all, if ever.
It's your own private business, and you don't need to tell anyone unless you want to. IF you are.
2006-09-03 15:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lynne 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you need to do what makes you happy and if that means that you are with someone of the same sex then go for it just be your self and stop worring about what others think!!!!
Good luck
2006-09-04 19:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by sxypiggy2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) STAY IN THE CLOSET until you are away from school age...and away from where ever you are if it is a small town..you will be harrassed terribly. Do NOT take the chance.
2) Coming OUT is NOT necessary....leave this alone until you are much older...do not tell your parents, you have no idea how they will react. Do not take the chance
3) your sex life is no one's business but yours.
2006-09-03 15:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋