I have been with my boyfriend for 3yrs now. We live together, and I know that he's the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. The problem is that he doesn't seem to want the "relationship". He wants the sex, house keeping, etc. but he never has time for me and my needs. He says he wants to marry me, one day, just not now. He's been married twice, both ending badly for him. He recently took a trip that I couldn't go with him. He went with his parents (who hate me), which is part of the reason that I couldn't go. This trip was supposed to take 2 days, it has now going on the fifth day. Let me add that the trip was not a pleasure trip. I trust him and don't belive that it's because he's with another woman. He's very secretive about his feelings and thoughts. Even this trip, I'm not 100% sure why he went. Should I just give him his time and space? Am I over reacting? Or should I concider going on my way?
2006-09-03 07:49:19 · 16 answers · asked by naive1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
let him have his space guys need to clear there head sometimes.
2006-09-03 07:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mitchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl get real and then get over it there is only one reason a man takes a trip that is live-in girlfriend can't go on. ANOTHER WOMAN. If he's been maried twice he should have a dam good idea of what it is he wants in a wife. If after 2 years you still aren't his wife chances are you will never be. If he's secretive about his feelings then it would not be hard 2 be secretive about anything else. Did he even bother to call? You need to think of you for a change. and remember EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON we just have to learn to accept the signs
2006-09-03 07:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dangerous situation. It seems like this is a one-sided relationship with you giving all. It looks like he just wants you around when he wants you. After 2 failed marriages you would think hes learned enough to stop the childish mind games, the secrets and such, and really should have learned how to treat a lady right. His word is just words as its his way of keeping you by letting you hear what you want to hear but his actions tell a whole different story. You have your own dreams and I dont feel that they are going to happen here. This guy still has issues he needs to resolve before he can truly be involved with someone else. Hes not being totally truthful with you and you shouldnt trust him. Id be very concerned about him hiding his feelings and thoughts as this itself is not a good sign. You deserve better so Id seriously either have a talk with him or better yet Id think about moving on to a better relationship. Good luck
2006-09-03 08:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should sit down and ask him directly (if you haven't already) what he wants. I think that if he loves you and cares for you, he should make it a point to include you in things he is doing. If he hasn't called you and it has been 5 days on this trip, I think you might want to consider moving on. Try reading the book "He's Just Not That Into You". I read it and some of the stories in there might help you out. I can't remember the author's name, but he is going to have a talk show this fall to help women and their situations like this with men. I hope everything works out for you =)
2006-09-03 07:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by samanthajane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By my opinion, your boyfriend needs some time to get over those last failed marriages so maybe he don't want to make an another mistake in his love life..
If we consider You and Your needs, don't suffer! If You really think he is the one You want to spend the rest of your life with, there shouldn't be some misunderstandings between You and him.
He should know your needs and know how to help You and be there for You!
Think about it!
2006-09-03 08:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by little 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Red flags are all over this one girl. he has 2 divorces for a reason. One is excusable 2 is a pattern. dont be number 3, get out while you still can, you cant have a relationship with secrets and distrust. it just doesnt work.
2006-09-03 08:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait a little!
but you have a couple of strike because you said his parents hate you and he's been in marriage that ended up badly!
But like i said i think you should wait a little because maybe he does't want your relationship with him to end up like those in the past!
2006-09-03 07:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by antonette_lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI Native1,
The problem is that you live together. Why would he want to have anything else. He has a maid, a cook, and a partner in bed. Leave!!!
2006-09-03 08:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he actually mite be cheating on you. im sorry. if he really really liked you, he probably would have found a way to bring you or atleast told stuff that was going on. plus he would have come back by now.
2006-09-03 07:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so why are you still with the freeloader ?
wants the milk for free but dont want to buy the cow !
if you stay with him you have none to blame but yourself he will probably leave you if you get pregnant
2006-09-03 08:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Duane G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋