If your wife of 6 years who used to never go out suddenly started going out with friends on weekends...?

Question

Would you be concerned that she's cheating or thinking about leaving you?

Answer 1

Maybe she's getting the 7 year itch a little early. Maybe she's just bored, not with you, just bored. She's learned that getting out away from home (her job? kids?) is enjoyable. If she used to never go anywhere she's found a new toy so to speak. She'll get tired of it eventually and lay it down & lose interest in it. If there haven't been problems in the marriage, no arguements, no disagreements, if her attitude toward you hasn't changed I wouldn't worry about it. Ask her if you can go with her? Ask her if she would like to go out with you instead of her friends. Follow her if it would ease your mind to see what she's doing. I really don't think you have anything to worry about. She's just a woman who sounds like she's been cooped up for a long time & she's finally getting out. If you do make a big deal out of it then there will be problems.

Answer 2

I say this , next time you go out and see if she gets UPSET with you.Go drive some golf balls at a range, take a drive in your car,go see a movie .You get the idea.See if she justsits back and allows you to go out or if she askes 20 question.See if she starts checking up on you.If she does not trust you then you can always say hey I allow you time to go out and enjoy time away from me.If she gets upset aboutthis statement then ask her why is she upset? See what her responce will be .If she dont get upset or walks away from you then you can see where this relationship may be heading.
I would at least ask her how her night out was and if she enjoyed her time out.Do not pry but see if she does tell you about her noight out.If it was with soem friends then trust me once in awhile she should tel lyou some funny stpry about what happened and who was there.IF she dont have friends when you and she where living the high life ,Where did she meet them ? those are clues and that will also shed some lite into what she is doing.Married people dont SNEAK around for no reason .

Answer 3

Don't jump to conclusions. Maybe she just wants to go out with her friends for a little while and have fun, I've been married for 5 years and like to go out sometimes, and I've never cheated. But if she starts acting strange, staying out until all hours of the night or wearing really revealing clothing, then I would be suspicious.

Answer 4

You'll never know until you check up on her. Unfortunately, that may be what you have to do. I myself have had to do it. I don't think anyone can say if she is cheating or not without doing some investigating. Her behavior doesn't necessarily imply that she's out cheating, but I would follow her one night and find out. Don't let 6 years turn into 10 because you're blind-sighted.

Answer 5

Trust her...but keep your eyes open to the possibility that something may be up. It's unusual for anyone to start doing something that they didn't do up until that point. Are these new friends or people she's known for years? She may just be bored and need a change of pace - but typically, she should be inviting you to go with her so you can both have fun together. Something honestly doesn't sound right about this.

Answer 6

Well I wouldn't get all upset about it...She may have realized that she needs a social life with other people other than you,and that she is someone all by her self..and it's okay to do that..doesn't mean that she is cheating maybe she just needs to be out and enjoy a little of her life without you..if that makes any sense to you...but I don't think that she is cheating..

Answer 7

Not necessarily....It all depends on the situation. Sometimes women can feel overwhelmed with the duties of being a housewife and mother, and just might need to unwind. Or, maybe she just misses the things she did when she was single. Or, maybe the husband did something for her not to trust him, and she just doesn't care anymore. Whatever the case, talk to her to try to find out....but keep in mind that when a woman's fed up, there's nothing you can do about it!

Answer 8

That depends, is she unhappy? If she is then I would bet she has been telling you she is for months, you probably haven't bothered to listen to her but trust me she has been letting you know. Women almost always try to talk about things and fix them with their partner first, sadly men fail to see the warning signs and pay attention to whats happening. If she isn't that person and has never given you reason to believe she has the character and compromised morals of a cheater then no, and accusing her of that is just going to give her more reason to doubt YOU and your relationship. Nothing is worse than having someone who should know you better than that thinking you are capable of something like this. It will do severe damage to your relationship. However, you are in a dangerous situation...if you aren't making her feel appreciated then she just might meet someone who does, not because she is looking just because stuff happens. There are lots of lonely men out there that screwed up like this with their wives and hopefully are wiser now.

However, I would definitely start doing some things to make myself someone she wants to be with, someone she has fun with, someone who makes her feel HEARD and appreciated. My guess is you got too comfortable and complacent and started taking her for granted. When is the last time you took her out to have fun? When is the last time you paid attention to her at all? You said yourself that she suddenly started going out, which means this isn't the way she usually conducts herself. Maybe she's just trying to give you a wake up call that you will actually understand because nothing she has tried so far has grabbed your attention. Either way you need to do some serious thinking about the things she has been trying to say to you, the things you have or haven't been doing with and for her..then you need to talk to her and ask for another chance.

Answer 9

Two things: One, she found new friends and is enjoying their company. Two: She found "someone" and is using the "friends" excuse to be with him. Bottom line: Any change in pattern should be a cause of concern and u need to trust your instincts but u also need to back your suspicions up with more proof before accusing her of anything.

Answer 10

Yes, I would. Every time I watch Dr. Phil and there's a story about a married woman who parties till 3am etc. on weekends, I say to myself "Who's she kidding? She's totally on the prowl or cheating on him."

Be cautious. Ask, but don't accuse. Be sneaky if you have to (but never admit that you were).