I love my wife very much and she says I need to be more romantic. I would just like some good ideas and pointers on how to be more romantic because I haven't got a clue. Your help would be greatly appreciated. Thank You!
2006-09-03 07:35:04 · 14 answers · asked by inluvwshana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can send her flowers and cards with romantic messages ...
But you don´t have to wait for special days ! Surprise her !
Good Luck !!
2006-09-03 07:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sherazade e as Mil e Uma Noites 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband said the same thing, that he wasn't very romantic and didn't really have any ideas, so I went and got a nice little journal and I wrote it like it was a handbook for him. I put all the things I like in it, the things that he already did that I liked, my idea of a romatic date and things like that, I did that over 12 years ago and I add to it from time to time. He really liked that he had something to referr to. Also, we leave each other notes on our pillows or the bathroom mirror. I love it when he just comes up behind me a gives me a hug and a kiss on the cheek, like if I'm at the computer or the kitchen sink. I like in when we are in the store and he holds my hand. I love it when he picks some flowers and gives them to me. I love it when he cleans my car and leaves me a little note in it. Just little things, they don't have to be big or cost money. Just kindness and saying something nice about her everyday! Good Luck. She lucky to have a guy that wants to try!!
2006-09-03 15:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being romantic isn't based in any certain gestures or actions. It is based in appreciating a person, and letting that person know exactly what you love about her.
What do you love about her? Be specific. Write out a list. If it is her smile, pick out a photo of her that you like where she is smiling, get it framed, and have it labeled "The Most Beautiful Smile in the World". Put it on your desk at work or next to your bed.
If it is her awesome mothering skills, use your video camera over the next year eight months to take footage of her being a good mom in action, then have the clips edited together and put to music to create a special Mom video. Give it to her on Mother's Day.
The main thing is to write down these specific points and create you actions to reflect them. Romance is validating our internal needs, and the best way to do that is to look for something very sincere. It will touch her heart more.
Also, doing things that she loves will be romantic, as it shows you are putting her needs first. Go see a girly movie with her (if she likes them), pretend as hard as you can to be interested :) , and talk to her about it afterward. Take off early one day from work and hurry home to make a homemade meal before she gets home. Buy her ten candles and set them all around the tub for her so you can draw her a bubblebath with candlelight.
Tell her everyday that you love her and WHY you love her. Try to give her a different reason everyday. For a good example, here is a great romatic quote from WHEN HARRY MET SALLY in which Harry give Sally specific reasons he loves her:
I love that you get cold when it's seventy one degrees out, I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich, I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts, I love that after I spend a day with you I can
still smell your perfume on my clothes and I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Years Eve. I came here tonight because when you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of the life to start as soon as possible.
This is romantic because it shows he has really thought about what he loves, and it gives her specific examples of why she is special and important. If you can give her real, concrete examples like this, she will definitely consider you more romantic. And you might discover just how much about her you love that you hadn't even realized before.
2006-09-03 15:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by MissM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hope im not intruding in on you beings im a guy but im gonna send it any how.
dinner is always done with the same ole same but spice it up with getting out the photo album and anything else that happen before and at the wedding place them on the dinning room table spread out in a manner to strike of conversation ( if possible go to walmart and buy some clear plastic from the clothe dept.to put over then to protect it) you know the rest of the romantic stuff to do to make it a great mood setter always prepare the conversation pieces so not to have aquite moment even to the point of the right music so you can dance right there in the dinning room. in the bed room go to walmart and buy a larg can of helium a bunch of balloons (red) and string for the balloons fille the entire cieling with the balloons with the strings hanging down for effect. place the rose peddles on the bed as per every romantic movie you ever seen. get the body oils out for the massage you'll be giving her along with the fresh fruit you'll be feeding her although symphonic music is most people cup of tea it is the most relaxing while getting a massage ( make sure her whole body gets rubbed even the top side of the toes and behind the ears, everything) now its time to satisfy her ( not you) if you think she can be more satified do it again and again, youll get your turn later as if you just to get satified to early youll run out of gas and its her day. pulling this off is easy if you enlist a family member or friend to get her out of the house and not come home to the exact time you set up. the dinner doesnt have to be home cooked you can order out or even buy tv dinners and tranfer it to a plate always buy enough to feed an army and serve it in your own houseware ( you can not over eat as it can cause you to run out of gas to early) what ever you drink you especially need to drink light as alchahol zapps the male ( member) and also your mental side so be gentle keeping in mind although you get the praise this isnt anything about you its about her let her compliment you once or twice but past that encourage her to thank you the next day becuase your focus is on her. you know your wife you know what she likes and doesnt so adlib at will so long as it's focus is on her having a great night. good luck and i hope itworks
2006-09-03 16:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can give you lots of roantic ideas, such as candle-light dinners, moonlight walks in the park, dancing, picnics on a warm sunny day & the list could go on & on.
But... if you get to know what matters to her the most & what her biggest interests are, you'll know more about what to do for her, personally.
Giving it the personal touch can make it more memorable for her.
First, find out what her most important needs are... then you can draw a better conclusion of what to do... because one thing might work for one woman, but not for the other.
2006-09-03 15:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, this is my Number One:
When my husband surprises me by cleaning out the garage, or tidying the house before I come home, or paints a room that has needed painting, did the laundry (I'm listing options here, not suggesting you have to do all of this), I am so in love with him at that moment.
There is nothing that can kill a romantic/sexy mood like feeling like you're someone's mother. And the quickest way to feel that way is to HAVE TO ASK your husband to do this or that around the house, before he'll do anything.
If you're a traditionalist, do the laundry AND make her supper :-)
Good luck!
2006-09-03 14:42:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you ever listen to Kenny Rogers....Bring me a Rose? The answer is there :) flowers, phone calls just to say I love you, hide sweet short notes around the house and her car, hold her, praise her and tell her you love her, do something with her that she loves and you don't but do it in a great mood, rub her back, light candles and play music in the evenings, hold her hand in public just to name a few. These do work, we do these for each other and have been married for over 30 years
2006-09-07 11:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to her, but not too much or it will seem fake. Believe me, we know when a man is being fake! Tell her when you like something she's wearing. If she does something you like, let her know! Make her feel like you are proud of her. Every once in a while, sacrifice something you enjoy doing to spend extra time with her.
2006-09-03 14:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by SalesGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave little notes telling her you love her, make her dinner and have candles lit with slow music playing,spread rose petals all over the bed with candles around,take a bubble bath together my husband does all of these things and it's so nice
2006-09-03 14:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her flowers, diamonds whatever you could afford. Or take her out on a date. Women loved to be courted and showered with attention
2006-09-03 23:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋