My spouse and I don't fight like we used to, we are or should I say I am content....but not necessarily happy because of his cheating numerous times..there is no cheating now as far as I know, and he is trying to do everything right now..but it is kinda too little too late..in this environment where my kids are happy, but I am not..is it healthy to stay?
2006-09-03 07:12:59 · 13 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can make that decision....Think of the children before you decide.
2006-09-03 07:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because you feel used. I am just stating my opinion.If you listen to me you won't have a marriage because I would suggest that you get a divorce and try to find someone who you will trust. If you want your marriage to work I would accept the things that can't be changed if possible. Try to remember the times when you have failed also. Maybe you didn't cheat but there was something else almost as bad. I don't think you will ever truly be happy with this man. He has failed you too many times. Counseling doesn't help unless he will put forth an effort. I divorced mine after six years and he brought me a dozen long stemmed roses. Too little too late was what I thought also.
2006-09-03 15:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel bad for you. ya know divorce is easy today, even with kids. its always greener on the other side too. you have to decide what is best for your kids and yourself. sounds like you haven't had any consulting? marriage is a life commitment, one you should fight to keep together. You obviously felt it worth taking the vows for at one time. I can tell you from personal experience, that you may not always be in love with the one your with, but it comes back around. best to you and your family
2006-09-03 14:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself this question. Can you ever trust him again?
If you can't then you might need to move on. It's important to forgive but you can't forget. And if he's done it numerous times, I wouldn't stay without a ton of counselling.
2006-09-03 14:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not healthy to stay. Before you run out the door, try to look where you're going to run to. Is it healthier there?
Plan your escape route now by saving money and establishing yourself...then leave.
2006-09-03 14:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT THINK U SHOULD STAY FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS...IF YOUR NOT HAPPY YOURSELF ITS HARD 2 KEEP THE KIDS HAPPY AND MAYBE A LITTLE TENSION IN THE AIR?
2006-09-03 14:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by annelg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not healthy.
but you could make a list of good things and bad. if the good outweighs the bad, well, stay but the bad outweighs the good , you should know what you got to do.
2006-09-03 14:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he stop cheating,is good,but always you need to get professional help.Good luck.
2006-09-03 14:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not healthy to stay but fun making his life hell....and make him pay for it all..
2006-09-03 19:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start a online relationship,then leave him
2006-09-03 14:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋