my best friend has been very pissed off with me 3 months ago....i thought i would give him time to heal but he hasnt completely forgiven me.....he acts nicely infront of me but he never calls me or says "hi"...it hurts me everyday....i have tried to forget him and throw him out of my life but i cant he is part of every day of my school life....how do i reach out to him and ask him to forgive and forget?
2006-09-03 07:06:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First, try calling HIM at a time when you think he'll be alone & have a little bit of time on his hands. Enough time has passed that you should be able to address this problem directly. Asked him to forgive you, and if there is ANYTHING you can do to fix the situation. Tell him that you value his friendship and miss that. It really depends how much you are willing to humble yourself, and how much you really want this friend back.
You can also just ask him in person if he is willing to talk with you and try to work things out. I've always found that the direct approach is best. If he still doesn't want to talk, maybe it is best for you to move on. Sometimes things can't be fixed. Every person is different, and maybe he isn't able or willing to fix things. File it under life experience, and try to learn from it for next time.
Hope this helped you...
2006-09-03 07:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Musicman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you can't change the past even if you really want to. You still value him as a friend and thats why you gave him time to heal. Just tell him how you feel because he has to forgive and forget by himself and no one can make him. Remind him of a good memory where you too are having fun. Maybe that will remind him of how great a friend you are.
2006-09-03 14:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Shayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you did. I am 33 years old and had been best friends with someone for what seemed like forever. Through the years we had our little tiffs but always forgave each other and continued witht he friendship. But this past spring she did something that was completely unforgivable to me. After some months she did call and appologize but it didn't matter to me. I don't hate her, I just have no desire to continue any kind of relationship with her anymore. If you friend has gotten to this point then there isn't much you can do but move on, find more friends and make sure you don't repeat what happened with your friend.
2006-09-03 14:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing you can do is call him and say that you are sorry if you did anything wrong to hurt him dont be shame to ask for his forgivinessm and he just maybe waiting on you to make the first move the longer you let this drag out the more you going to feel uncomfortable in each other present so handle your business life is to short not to forgive your friends good lucky to you.
2006-09-03 14:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask him to forgive and forget. But you can't make him. Maybe 3 months just isn't enough time, or maybe he really just doesn't want to be friends anymore.
2006-09-03 14:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyway you can! Believe me I know....my best friend died in a car accident 23 years ago, and I still think of her every day. I miss her so much....I wish she was pissed at me and would never talk to me again, but was still alive!
So...do anything you have to do to get that person back into your life!
2006-09-03 14:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Dorothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can have a minute of his time, take him to lunch or something, tell him, you do not know what got into you, about the situation, and it will never happen again, you have learned from your mistakes. you hope that one day he will find it in his heart to forgive you, because you miss his friendship.
2006-09-03 14:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him aside and tell him that you're hurt that he hasn't fully forgiven you and talk about what happened.
If he still treats you that way, it's time to find a new best friend. People who hold grudges aren't too fun.
2006-09-03 14:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you didn't say what you did it is hard to judge. If he doesn't want to be friends let it go. Have a face to face talk and accept whatever decision he makes.
2006-09-03 14:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reach out with both hands and have money in one of them.
2006-09-03 14:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Texan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋