I was with someone for almost 10 yrs. I delt w/ his depression, manic depression and paranoia, not to say his in and out of the hospital for his mental illness. Last year october I noticed that he was not taking his med's. When I confronted him I told that if he ended back in the hospital he could not come back home to me.
His response was, o.k. Needless to say that after the stealing of my ATM card, jewelry and cash, he is now hospitalized. I have made it very clear to him that I want nothing to do with him. Being that I have 2 children from him that is impossible. He was very close to our daughter; she no longer wants to speak to him. He has also been very verbally abusive. Since his hospitalization he calls and claims to be "sorry". Yeah, right. I could go on and on if I put all the details. But it's not a good situation. What do U think?
2006-09-03 07:05:53 · 7 answers · asked by Timber 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it is time for you to consider the needs and wants of yourself and the children. Stick to your word, amke a life for yourself and the children, and let him be responsible for his own life, He has made his choices, make yours and move forward with your life. He can still be involved with his children, such as support and visitation, but you have given him ample opportunity and stuck by him, the rest should be up to him!
2006-09-03 07:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by rascal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get out now while you are strong you have given him more than enough chances he is never going to be the man you and your children deserve.Verbally i know its hard but try to rise above it words cant hurt you upset you yes but not destroy you.If your daughter does not want to see her dad don't make her if your other child does maybe there is a family member who could act as mediator while the child visits or take a letter to their dad.He says he is sorry but you know nothing is going to change.
2006-09-03 14:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by grovette22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already answered your own ,your childred deserve a safe happy home and besides his illness verbal abuse is still abuse don't take it move on and if he wants a relationship with his kids he will do what is right for his health and well being .
2006-09-03 14:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just going on the information you've provided, you've made a good decision. Your daughter will decide when she will speak to him again. No matter what her age is, she is entitled to her feelings.
When your children are adults, they may change theri minds, but until then, you neeed to think of them and yourself.
You're doing the right thing.
2006-09-03 14:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to say he can't be in your life beyond the bare minimum due to your having kids together. The healthy partner has to set limits, and can't just accept being hurt and used forever or you'll be sick, too.
2006-09-03 14:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with him, then nothing should force you into being with him. I wouldn't have you discourage him from maintaining his treatments and getting well, but you have to be clear with him that you cannot go through another relationship with him.
2006-09-03 14:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by tjjone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it is best for you and your children to cut ties from him...................
he stole from you.......... he's verbally abussive and his ilness can and likley will have a negative effect on you and your children........
2006-09-03 14:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by suesue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋