i have been with her for 9 years
i believe her to be my soul mate
i know her verry well she told me she burried her feelings for me
i see her desires for me
too many problems to explain
apart from being emotional how do i get over that and return to myself show her i am the real deal
2006-09-03 06:51:32 · 14 answers · asked by kevin g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cherish all the good from the past, and keep that excitement with you as you rediscover one another in a futureristic light. Let the negative past lie where it is, in the past, and close those doors, for they are merely circumstances, and learning lessons that has brought you both this far. The main circumstance is present, your hope for something better, and to achieve that is simply to beleive in each other. Meaning, accept each others individuality and embrace the uniqueness within of freely sharing and expressing one's self in the whole perspective on life's view. Therefore, there are many aspects for change in discovering this world and all it has to offer in new experiences. And the best part of that is doing so together. Meeting new people, places, participation with excitement and to freely observe your partners individuality. Each other witnessing the smiles of happiness, the excitement of having learnt something new, enhanced friendships with commonalities and future gatherings in participation in events especially if it involves travelling together to get there. Many is the opportunity to happiness as long as there is trust, freedom of expression, and never looking back on that negativity that has hindered your growth in your partner, relationship, and marriage. Hope that helps, good luck.
2006-09-03 07:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem I see is she has made a decision to bury her feeling. Feelings come and go, day in day out they change. Marriage should be based on commitment. I wouldn't take it to personal, sounds like she the one with the issues. Take one day at a time. Be patient maybe she realize what she doing. God bless!
2006-09-03 07:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by sher7us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would sugest some seperate counseling and some marriage counseling...both...and some long walks together go sit out in the woods or the park or beach and just talk to each other like you did when you first met and got together .... start communicating again....it will come with time ....and you know people do change and grow and sometimes it is up to the other person to change and grow with them it isnt that we choose to leave them behind .... just try to get her to catch up help her ....see what happens .... change isnt wrong only if it is bad changes....
2006-09-03 07:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by fantasia91273 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like one or both of you have been ignoring this for some time now. Counseling is a good option, but try TALKING to her about it. It sounds to me as though she has some serious issues that need to be addressed. You probably have some as well.
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2006-09-03 06:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps, sit and discuss with her in a conducive environment. In marriage , we needn't assure our partner by saying that I love u , but our little actions and generosity of thought will go a long way in cementing the relationship. Dont give up, your will is the strength, your thought wwill be the pillar.
2006-09-03 07:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by lanks20032003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would offer to go to a marriage counselor with her and tell your mate that you dont want to give up on the relationship and you want to work things out.
2006-09-03 06:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, give her space,and eventually she will see, you have changed for the better. Have you explained to her, you have grown up, and matured, and know what you want, and that she will make your life complete. Send her a card, expressing yourself, and see what happens.
2006-09-03 06:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might sound corny, but pray. God honors marriages. He wants to give you the solution. We're just trying to get points and stuff.
2006-09-03 06:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by SexyBrazilianBrina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about the way you were before you got married and us that as a guide line to what you think she'll feel and act.
2006-09-03 06:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sincere with your feelings maybe start as friends again. but if this has happened before it may be time to move on.
2006-09-03 06:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by a perfectly contradictory cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋