2006-09-03 06:09:09 · 18 answers · asked by SexyBrazilianBrina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When your relationship is in a rut. Try something new.
2006-09-03 06:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Christopher C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. It happens to most couples if they are together long enough. Here's a web site for advice for getting beyond the boredom. http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/enjsex_boringsex.shtml
You ask "what is a dry spell". Well, to me, a dryspell is when you've gone a while without sex. The length of time without sex that qualifies as a "dry spell" is completely relative to the individual experiecing it. One person may consider a week without sex a dryspell, while another may not consider it a dryspell for a month or longer.
What is important is that you and your partner both feel your intimacy needs are met. This includes both realms of sexuality; the physical and emotional.
I've been married for 20 years and believe me when I say there are many days I've yeaned for the passion and excitement there when the relationship was new. My mind knows it is not competely possible to revisit that time in our relationship-- the I can't keep my hands off you period. But my heart, if that's what you want to call it, still craves that feeling. I think I'll will spend some time reading the info at the site I provided to you. ;-)
In the meantime, take comfort in knowing what you are feeling is NORMAL. The boredom is not an indicator that you are with the wrong person. Despite our own "dryspell," my husband and I are lovers, friends, and most of all, life companions and we know we will be there for each other no matter what life throws at us.
Good luck. And here's another web site for you. I think you'll find it, uh, interesting. http://users.forthnet.gr/ath/nektar/kma/main.htm
2006-09-03 06:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to do it in a different atmosphere. Add some roleplaying, toys, costumes...Anything but cheating!!!! The way to get out of a dry spell is to do something new and exciting every day!!! Communication is exploration is the best way to get through a dry spell. Good luck and have fun!
2006-09-03 06:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it's just become routine and predictable. The excitement of sex is not know what's next, or when it's going to happen. Change as much as you can: where, when, how, positions, type and amount of foreplay. Make it a goal that each time is going to be completely different from the last 3 or 4 times. Its easy to fall into a rut, hard to get out of, but worth the effort.
2006-09-03 06:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by heynow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dry spell is going a period of time without having sex. Boring sex is still having sex.
2006-09-03 06:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
You might try "going without" for a few days or even up to a couple of weeks.
A dry spell originally referred to not getting any rain or not enough rain. People are just saying that you're not into the sex right now.
Trust me. If you do go without it for awhile, your cravings will re-add an appreciation for what you do have.
Also, more exercise can enhance the sexual experience.
2006-09-03 06:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by DexterLoxley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal. a dry spell is when you get so used to someone and the passion of first meeting gets old and dies down. But itll get back up again. But DO NOT force it cause when i was and i was worried, it got worse and too much pressure for us. Then one day we were eating pizza and watching tv, we attacked each other. Youll have your moments.. Its LOVE and for me its MARRIAGE. Its normal from time to time. people werea lways like,"Do crazy things and new things/" But then we were so worried about it dong all this crazty stuff all we wanted to do was just be normal and relazxed. The more relaxed you are the the more you face that its just a SPELL, your sex likfe will be awesome whne its done. Let it take its course. It wont be lonf till your attack each other agian. just be yourselves.
2006-09-03 06:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! What great answers. Try praying. It's nothing wrong with dry spells we all go through them. Try something new. This is a way to find new things about each other. I've been with my husband for 15 years and honestly we are still discovering new things about one another. We are very much in love. Only because God is the head of our lives.
2006-09-03 06:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anoited 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are serious about each other:
1. get out of there for a while
2. Go somewhere exciting.
3. Do some things you have never done together
4. Meet some new people.
5. Take some new pictures on your trip together.
Learn some new games
Good luck this ALWAYS HAS WORKED FOR ME
2006-09-03 06:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by loligo1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A dry spell is exactly what you're in right now. Time to liven things up a bit, shuffle the deck, change the scenery, try something new. Make it rain, baby, make it rain!
2006-09-03 06:11:36 · answer #10 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dry spell = time out
2006-09-03 06:11:22 · answer #11 · answered by justmejimw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋