what's the hardest knock that life has ever dealt you?

Question

have you been able to grow and learn from it?or did it make you bitter + hard?

Answer 1

i lost two babies it didn't make me bitter or hard just made me decide never again as the heartache is to much to bare

Answer 2

The truly hardest knock that life has dealt me is being in a cult for 33 years and never realizing it!

I am free from it but not the effects of it.

I have learn to not trust anyone or anything right away. I have learned to be compassinate to those going through difficut times.
I have experienced bitterness, anger,resentment, grief, disappointment, disillusionment and a host of other emotions because of my experience.

I probably have been kept from a lot of terrible mistakes that I could have made because I was in the cult when I was in my twenties.

I am getting better all the time and becoming more stable as time goes by. I am not hardened by the ordeal, just numb and uncaring.

Answer 3

I've had more than my fair share of hard knocks in life, but I just keep picking myself up, dusting myself down and starting all over again, I've learnt many a lesson from some of the hard knocks in my life, some hard ones and some valuable ones, but the biggest lesson of all was to have the guts to carry on and try to make sure those things never hurt me again, no I haven't got bitter about my knocks because that would make me as shallow as the people or things that have knocked me, life is far too short to be a hard knock victim for anything or anyone.

Answer 4

The hardest knock in life that we were ever dealt was when my partner had just past his driving test and we had just bought a nice reliable, but cheap car. We had gone out for the day and where on our way back when some silly woman in a BMW smashed into us. She got away with just a little scratch and our car was a right off and we had to buy a new one.

I do not drive and no longer want to learn to drive as I now fare that something like this will happen to me. I can also get quite agitated when out driving with my hubby, not cause of him he is a good driver, but cause of the hand full out there that do not look where they are going.

Answer 5

I'm sorry, but if I described that to you, you would be terrified to death!!!!!

Let's just say, I met 'Him'; or at least felt part of his 'world'.
I wouldn't even attempt to try to describe the Horror that consumes you.
But let me just tell you: Hell is Real!!
That's all I'm gonna say!


Recovery??
... is a long story … from an experience like that! Actually the experience seemed to happen a few times over a few weeks!!

Jesus Christ was the only real antidote, though many – family, religious leaders [some of the very best too] – tried and probably generated some benefit, the real overcoming did not really occur until I realized that I needed physical contact with my wife.
Of course, the last thing you’re at after feeling part of the world of Hell is sex; so I don’t mean that; I just mean holding, etc.
I was frightened … powerfully frightened!!

Holding my wife overthrew 2 major elements of Satan!

1st he represents hate and envy and a spouse represents the opposite!
2nd he is only spirit, and physically holding the one you love is the antithesis and overthrows any hold he may have!

From there, things started looking up!

Answer 6

I lost my job after 22 1/2 years of working at my job, years of coming in sick and working OT gone. I busted my butt, they did not care. Never had a chance to go to school or work and get current skills because they needed me where I was. Now my skils are old skills and I don't have money or time to go to school and start again. Let's send more jobs overseas and continue to downsize.

After almost 14 months, I am now hoping to get a job that pays less then 1/2 of what I made.

I have learned and can pass on my knowledge to other people, but is too late for me.

I don't like it, but I have become bitter, I have lost my savings, I did not get the retirement I worked to get, soon I will lose my house. Even going to school to get this job and working a ton of OT, will not help me.

I will no longer be able to retire and live a comfortable life. I have been nearly wiped out in my mid-50's to start again at the bottom. Who hires new hires in their mid-50's? Not many people.

I will contine my education in January (I hope) work 2 jobs, so that maybe in 2 years, I will get 60% of my former salary, if I continue to work 2 jobs or lots of OT.

Answer 7

Yes finding out that I had chronic kidney failure in May 2004, and that I had been ill for over eight years but not known what it was and that in July 2004 they would fail before Christmas 2004, but failed in the august.

Had 18 months of dialysis before having a transplant in Feb 2006.

I found out that I am stronger than I thought, life's too short, that I can cope with anything, not to let other people get to me.

Now I am more confident and a lot happier.

Jenni

Answer 8

As a child, I felt the rejection of my mother and the indifference of my father keenly. I watched from the periphery as my two older sisters enjoyed some affection and interaction with our parents. My pain ran deep, and as a child I tormented myself asking "why." Desperately, I centered my life on being as perfect as possible, hoping that the love doled out to my sisters would find its way to me. I exhausted myself in my efforts, all fruitless.

I was in fourth grade when the subject of genetics was touched on by my teacher. I learned that it was not possible for two green-eyed parents, like mine, to have a brown-eyed child, like myself. It was then that I started to notice other differences. My almond shaped eyes to their round ones. My yellow skin to their peach complexions.

I began to ask questions. I was slapped, screamed at, called an idiot.....I kept asking. I was 26 years old before my mother finally admitted the truth. That she had an affair while her husband was away in the Navy. That she was "caught" by the pregnancy, and that my birth was a source of shame, guilt, and marital strife for her. Abortion was not legal then, but my mother tried many other methods, obviously all failures.

I asked who my real father was. My mother would not tell me. She said she would tell me before she died. Eight years later, her body wracked by cancer, I asked her for the truth she promised. She said: "It is not important." That was the last opportunity to learn the truth. She died a week later, the secret forever buried.

I am neither bitter nor hard, but I do have scar tissue. The childhood spent in penance for an unknown crime was wasted. The feelings of rejection and disinterest will always be felt -- there is no way to erase history. If there was any silver lining, or "learning and growing" it's that I have become stronger than the average person. I have an intuition about family dynamics now that I'm sure was born somewhere in my childhood.

And I was a kind parent, a friend and mentor to my own child. I never wanted her to feel as I did. Today, she's in college and calls me nearly everyday. We are close, and I'm grateful.

Answer 9

When my wife died giving birth to our 5th child. Then having to file for bankruptcy due to all of the hospital bills and other bills that went unpaid during that time. Then losing my job because only 2 kids were in school and daycare was more than I could afford and finally moving from Texas to Maine so that I could get some help caring for the kids from my parents and I could get back to work.

It made me a better person and a better parent. I have been raising them on my own since 1997 and I have the perspective from both the Mother and the Father. I have a great job, my own house and EXCELLENT kids!

1 just graduated from college and is a high school physics teacher and is married. Another graduated from HS last year and is married to a wonderful guy in the Navy. Then I have one going into 10th grade, 8th grade and 6th grade.

Life throws us many curve balls, but it is all in how you react in the face of adversity.

Answer 10

I come from the school of hard knocks,A good education is essential for success. However one must have a certain respect and admiration for those who have made their marks with out the benefit of the traditional education. The culture that culture that we call street has given birth to some of the most successfully and insightful people in the world.

Answer 11

I was adopted into an abusive family. I have never had a close relationship with my "mother" as she has always abused my trust and stood by doing nothing as I was beaten by her husband. I now will never have a relationship with my adoptive "sister" as she instigated the majority of the beatings I received. And whilst I may forgive my "father" for beating me, and I may move on - I will never forget that it was he who beat and terrorised me for most of my life.

His reason I hear you ask? I was 3 years old when I told my "mother" he was cheating on her (and he was).

Lessons I've learnt -

1. Some people are not meant to have children. Children are a gift not a punching bag.
2. Some people are just that way because of their upbringing.
3. I'm worth more than that.
4. Life does get better.