After the break up with my last boyfriend, and the break up of my rebounds girlfriend a year ago, we became eachothers comfort through both of our times of need. We began seriously dating, going out a lot, talking on the phone when we're not together, spending the night, taking trips and all the other good stuff that comes along with relationships. Unfortunately, he's not my boyfriend, but for the last 9 months, I've been faithful to him, as if he were. He's told me several times that he's not ready for a relationship right now, because he can't be faithful to me right now. I'm hurt because I've been faithful, trying to set up a healthy relationship/frienship in the long run and all I appear to be is someone who keeps him company. It's Sunday, and I haven't talked to him since last Tuesday. He normally calls 30 times a day? Has he found someone that makes him want to break his unfaithfulness? Is he tired of me? Was I really just a comfort zone? How do I get over it?
2006-09-03 05:49:36 · 10 answers · asked by DaBossLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It doesn't seem that you want the same thing out of this relationship. You can't blame him he was honest with you about not being able to commit. It was your choice to continue to see him after he put it on the table. If you needed commitment you should not have accepted anything less but you're settling because you didn't work on building your self esteem to where it needed to be before you got into the one-sided relationship. Don't chase after him...let him go. Keep yourself busy with friends or whatever you like to do. Build your self esteem this time - it should not be about having a man in your life.
2006-09-03 05:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were eachothers rebounds with perks! The way i look at it people will always want there first love but when they try to find there one true love it is harder. I think that he is just still hurt and it takes a while to get over things. Even 9 months!!!! Just give him time maybe he isnt ready for the whole long term relationship yet. just tell him how you feel if he doesnt already know and talk about it with him.
2006-09-03 06:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kristy Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like there was some mis-communaction here.yall were both rebounds to each other. If you really want this to work then u need to open up and speak to him and get all out n the open. To answer your question you prob were just a comfort, but we all need that somtimes to help us get past a break up. If you want as relationship hell come to u. to get over it just do things that u like doing, keep ur mind busy good luck
2006-09-03 05:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by waysexy26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has been honest and told you he did not want a committed relationship. Just because on partner does, that doesn’t mean the other partner has to commit. You have to let him have his feelings as well.
2006-09-03 05:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by 75160 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE YOU WERE THERE 4 EACH OTHER THRU YOUR BREAKUPS BUT HE IS PLAYING THE FIELD AND DOESNT WANT 2 SETTLE DOWN AGAIN YET..IF HE HAS TOLD U HE CANT BE FAITHFUL THEN I WOULD MOVE ON..U NEVER KNOW..
2006-09-03 05:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by annelg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone that can't be faithful to you, doesnt deserve you.
I'm not going to try to guess his motives- but he basically told you he is seeing other people, because he told you he can't be faithful.- that's a given.
2006-09-03 05:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by dsolsi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probaly has found someone else if he hasn't call in that long maybe he just didnt want to hurt your feeling because he liked you to uch to see you hurt.
2006-09-03 05:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by Rashad M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was honest with you and now you are pissed that you couldn't "change" him. Sucks to be you. Move on. He has.
2006-09-03 05:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to let it go
2006-09-03 05:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by heyu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋