After the break up with my last boyfriend, and the break up of my rebounds girlfriend a year ago, we became eachothers comfort through both of our times of need. We began seriously dating, going out a lot, talking on the phone when we're not together, spending the night, taking trips and all the other good stuff that comes along with relationships. Unfortunately, he's not my boyfriend, but for the last 9 months, I've been faithful to him, as if he were. He's told me several times that he's not ready for a relationship right now, because he can't be faithful to me right now. I'm hurt because I've been faithful, trying to set up a healthy relationship/frienship in the long run and all I appear to be is someone who keeps him company. It's Sunday, and I haven't talked to him since last Tuesday. He normally calls 30 times a day? Has he found someone that makes him want to break his unfaithfulness? Is he tired of me? Was I really just a comfort zone? How do I get over it?
2006-09-03 05:49:00 · 7 answers · asked by DaBossLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take a clue from what he does not say. He is dating you until he finds some one who suits him better. He has probably already made contact with that some one and you are no longer important in his life. Take a cooling off time and be by yourself and do some readying. Then look for some one who is interested you you.
My grandson did that. Dated a girl who he knew he was not interested in as a life long partner. She would get drunk and cry that he was not going to marry her. He finally broke off and moved away. He can find someone better than a person who drinks a 12 pack a day plus hard liquor and smokes. She went through all his money right fast. They were living in a tent on some forest land because of no money for an apartment. .
2006-09-03 05:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you have to be grateful for is he was honest with you, he said he is not ready for a relationship. It appears you are looking for more, well get the massage, he is not ready to be faithful, to one person, don't sit around waiting, stop letting life pass you by, go out and have some fun, and live, so you won't miss finding Mr. Right.
2006-09-03 13:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. He told you he doesnt want anything serious. So if that's what you're looking for you'll have to find it somewhere else. He could have found someone else but you shouldnt worry about it. If you want to be in a serious relationship forget about him and find someone who wants the same thing
2006-09-03 12:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hoping for a serious relationship with one on the rebound is a mistake... have fun with him, but look for someone who isn't in a recovery mode...
2006-09-03 12:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by jeanne g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your rebound guy...enough said. Don't waste any more time on this guy. Find someone else because its pretty obvious he probably has.
2006-09-03 12:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not being so available..... that does wake them up...and at least you may find out what he is all about. Then let go ..... or carry on...whichever way it goes
2006-09-03 12:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by KMMM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be ready for your next rebound...
2006-09-03 13:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋