2006-09-03 05:28:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
A psychological magazine, "Psychology Today" had an article about "True Love".
This article explains how "Dopamine" creates that "Love Sick" feeling we get when we first meet. Dopamine is a chemical your brain produces and gets released into your system. It's kind of like adrenaline, and you'll feel super human. This is a short-term reaction by the brain and does not last forever ... in other words, you cannot say in the "Love Sick" state perpetually.
However, your question is about "True Love" which is much different than being "Love Sick". "True Love" requires work. You need to give to your love without expecting to receive. True love is not that thunderous feeling that comes out of nowhere. Rather, it is the feeling of routine, and commonality with another. True love takes effort, faith, and hope. When you meet couples who've been married around 30 years, then you see that the "Love Sick" is there, but mainly gone ... but they have a common bond of sharing their life together, and taking the good times with the bad times. Actually, another perpetual chemical does get created when couples stay together after the "Love Sickness". This brain chemical is so powerful that it is common that when one of the two dies, the other will die within 1 year. This is because that chemical is missing, and this often shuts their will to live down.
The Blessed Mother Theresa (nun married to God) wrote about suffering from the "Black Love". She often didn't feel that chemical burst of spirituality that she had when she was young (which I say was her "Dopamine" reaction for her love of God). However, her faith, hope, and obedience carried her through many of God's small works. I too, would be challenged if I were pulling dying men out of gutters and tending to their wounds at the last moments of their lives ... dunno how she did it - but it is a great example how to deal with marriage when it becomes less than exciting, or tedious. I would say that the Blessed Mother Theresa did have a True Love with God.
2006-09-03 05:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was very much in Love with my Husband and it's been Swenty years now that he is gone and True Love did Fade.
2006-09-03 17:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at your question: TRUE LOVE. Real honest true love won't ever fade, in fact it gets better and better with time. As you age and grow with a person, you learn all the little things that make them who they are and if you are truly in love with them, those discoveries only help you grow more in love with them each day. You will find yourself truly fascinated by everything about that person and discover that you want to know more, see more, feel more. And yes of course, they have ways that will irritate you and bother you but if the good outweighs the bad, consider yourself to have found true real love.
2006-09-03 12:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
southern lady hit it right on the head, i think. i totally agree with her answer. i have been in love and while the ride was great, you can't fully appreciate the experience until you finally meet the right one. when you can completely give of yourself unselfishly to your mate and vice versa, and still feel every minute of every day that you are in the right relationship, then you know it is right. real love only gets better with time. like fine wine, it only get's better with time. no one is perfect. NO ONE. but if you can live with your mate dispite any flaws they may have, and they can accept you with yours, then you have an excellent foundation to build upon for the rest of your lives together. true love is a true gift. do not ever take your love or partner for granted. nothing is guaranteed in this life except that one day we all will die, so make the most of your time here and enjoy your life with your true love!
me and my mister are the best of friends. we get on each other's nerves, sure, with our habits, but underneath it all, by the time we go to lie our heads down on our pillows, we both know without a doubt, that we are soulmates and we are on the same team, not playing against each other. he is my rock, and he tells me i am his as well. we lean on each other for emotional support. it is easy to live with someone, but it is much harder to keep the love alive. good luck in all your endeavors!
2006-09-03 12:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by lrfoster7 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is true love, it has to be cherished and protected. Never take each other for granted. I fell in love with a WoW! ya know made my heart skip, young man at 16. We married years later and are still crazy for each other over 20 years later. He still makes me say, WOW!
2006-09-03 12:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by mischiefmaker_kc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does fade at times in case of excessivity, anything that's over excessive is likely to B inferior for anybody & everyone.
2006-09-03 13:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing lasts forever. Nothing good, nothing bad. No thing is endless......and then of course you would need to define true love?? What is that really? Love is a commitment; to love, to continue loving, even when not loving would be the easier choice.
2006-09-03 12:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by mchlmybelle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As opposed to false love?
2006-09-03 12:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can ;anyone can find true love its what you make of it once you have found it is what counts
2006-09-03 12:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe it does.
2006-09-03 12:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋