If your partner never had any protective instincts i.e when you're out at night with a group walking through a street, he would walk 20 steps ahead. Gets into a club, restaurant, bar - walks through without giving a damn where you are, unless another male pays you attention. Generally puts himself in front first. Would you feel uncared for?
He will always apologise if somebody picked him up on his ways, but he hasn't got that protective instinct with me, that most other males seem to have with their partners. Is this quite common?
2006-09-03 05:26:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this is something you want in a man, then you are dating the wrong one. Not every male feels this way. I don't consider it an instinct. I have only had one boyfriend in my life that was that way and was ALWAYS concerned for my safety. It is a learned trait, something someone picks up by environmental influences and learned behavior.
But as I said, if this is a trait you NEED, then you need someone else.
2006-09-03 05:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by jobie023 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Its a mans natural instinct to protect to his best ability those he loves or cares about most. True there are whimps out there but come between him and his, the whimp turns into superman. Hopefully! It sounds like there is something else going on here, like maybe he doesnt care about you or he doesnt want to be seen with you in public. In dealing with people from allover the world, this is the first time Ive ever heard of a man not being protective of his woman. Not quite sure what to tell you to do here, except enroll him in a Charles Atlas program if theyre still around. Good luck
2006-09-03 05:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are involved with a man who really isnt into you. I have seen men like this before, you cant even tell that he and the female are together, they are so far apart. I would feel very uncared for if it was me. Thats not cool at all. If you already told him how you feel and he is still doing it, you need to let him go. He is not into you enough and a woman needs to feel protected, cared for and like the man she is with wants to be with her.
2006-09-03 05:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot say it is. I am VERY protective and all I focus on is my girl. Not anyone or anything else in the club. Either she is dancin with me, or I will be a very unhappy camper.
Either everyone is quite different in that way, or I am way over jealous.
2006-09-03 05:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by sf4fun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like my ex husband...
One time we were out and he was playing pool with his buddy, i was sitting a a bar stool by them watching, a guy come over and asked me to dance, I looked over at my husband and with a agreeing nod, raised his hand in a gesture of sure why not go ahead. I couldn't believe it. And he wonders why he is an ex!
2006-09-03 05:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by maxine553 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always the guy that must give you that security or protection when he is with you. Your partner is weird or don't care less.
2006-09-03 05:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not common. Tell him it's disrespectful and teach him how to be a gentlemen. Keep doing it until it becomes 'second nature'.
2006-09-03 05:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This behavior is just rude and inconsiderate. Ask him "Are you embarrassed to walk with me?!" Or "Are you clearing a path for me or are you just being rude?" Maybe he'll see you find this behavior annoying and rude.
2006-09-03 05:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to find someone new.
The GUY you describe, sounds self-absorbed,self-centered, and needs some time alone to admire himself.
2006-09-03 05:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋