2006-09-03 05:25:16 · 23 answers · asked by kevin g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop being a turd?
2006-09-03 05:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by NickyO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont say that your spouse is the only one for you, that you cannot live without them. That only says desperate dim wit. Do not explain that you can change or that you already have. This only reminds them on why they are leaving.
Instead just listen. When they are being critical. Dont argue or try to defend yourself. Let them vent and express their feelings. This will be very hurtful, but just agree that the marriage has failed. Mostly just listen. This is a type of reverse psychology that will make him eventually defend you. (How could this wonderful listener that cares about my feelings be so bad??)
Dont try to rebuild the relationship, dont put pressure on your spouse. Be a friend and slowly things will turn around.
**Just because your getting a divorce doesnt mean you cant have sex. Make sure you are not holding it over their head as a tool. Just let it happen it is a form of intimacy.
Good Luck and God Bless, the divorce rate is too high.
2006-09-03 13:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have to state the problem! but in general you can sit and talk things through and find out what is wrong what is truly wrong and don't try to spare any feelings be truthful and honest with your spouse and yourself. You can not win if you are a liar or not true to yourself only you can save your marraige not someone giving you advice on the internet or a therapist just you and your spouse so good luck in finding your path in life.
2006-09-03 13:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think therapy is a good start. About 3months ago my husband and I were at a point where we weren't speaking and sleeping in different rooms. We went to like 3 months of counseling and I was amazed at how the dynamics changed in our marriage. Sometime its good to have a sort of no holds barred type of talk where everything you cant stand about your spouse is addressed. He even says it works and hes a football loving ,non romantic, testosterone driven guy. Not sensitive at all ! Hope this helps!
2006-09-03 13:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by heathermom0927 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on just how serious you want to save it and if your partner does too and also whatever caused this problem? Marriage counseling is a very good place to start
2006-09-03 12:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to save it? think seriously about it then if you really want to then do it. Go back to why you fell in love and start over. Little things are special and mean the most, such as sweet short notes, etc.
2006-09-07 11:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think saving it will bring happiness to both of you try to consult a marriage counsellor but, if it is just you dont want to let go of her then you may one to think twice about saving it.
2006-09-03 12:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling.
2006-09-03 12:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by jobie023 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew the nature of your situation I could help you out. Are you not pleasing her/him sexually? Are you not open enough? Or, is the problem within your partner?
2006-09-03 12:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you used to get married, I mean with love!
2006-09-03 12:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without knowing the problem? Haven't a clue. Good luck with that.
2006-09-03 12:27:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋