Why does a person continue with a divorce even when he feels he still loves the wife?

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Answer 1

There's lots of reason's why:

1.) He might love his wife, but the wife doesn't love him. You can't force someone to be with them no matter how badly you want them to. It takes 2 people to really love each other to keep a marriage going

2.) She might've committed adultery or hurt him in some other way and while he still very much cares about her he can't and won't allow her to continue hurting him.

3.) Maybe he loves her if he has kids and truly wants to make it work.

4.) Or perhaps its tough to face the fact he will be single soon and is scared about it.

Answer 2

In many cases, the months leading up to and immediately after the separation are very painful for both individuals. People who are hurt can say some horrible things in the heat of an argument, and bring up things that should really be left alone. After a while, you lose trust in the person who hurts you, and once the trust is gone it's very difficult to get it back. Love without trust makes for a disappointing--and potentially volatile--relationship.

Perhaps the husband still loves his wife, but he feels that it's just time to move on, and that the best thing to do is just end it now and begin to heal. He could have decided that each of them deserve to find another love with whom they have a second chance. That's what each new relationship is: the opportunity to have a romantic involvement with no (or at least considerably fewer) mistakes in it. Remember that time you got sick in her lap when you had too much Southern Comfort? Well, with this relationship you can decide not to do that, so you won't have to worry about her bringing it up in every argument from then out.

Sometimes, no matter how much it hurts, it's just better to break free and start over.

Or he might just have some sick, twisted sense of love and think that all relationships have to be soul-crushing.

Answer 3

Sometimes love is not enough and marriage holds a great responsibility and challenges...if both loving each others but cant communicate or deal with problems or ..cant raise their children well and it goes to far and cat be solved no matter what ,,.they will both have stress ,problems ,may cheat,anything so ...if the main porpuse of marriage is not accomplished why stay married???...if his/her life is gonna be all trouble and problems and misery instead of understanding and dealing with things properly then why stay...there are many reasons for divorce...that over comes love.....for example (if a wife cheats on her husband) ...he has broken heart and his dignity is better well without her.and maybe he stills loves her but cant stand what she did!..so ...its hard and its diffrent from a persn to another..

Answer 4

it's either he feels as if everything around them is an argument or his wife has done something that could break his heart terribly...

that's the problem with marriages, they fall in love and when they finally be together, it's all about Bills, kids and jobs. No more, you're the most beautiful, No more, You are perfect...Now, always, Lose weight or Get a Job! or Aren't I beautiful anymore?

remember the old times and don't think of the stupid things that might lead to an argument...

:) :) :) :) :)

Answer 5

But is he still "in love" with her? Loving someone doesn't guarantee that you can live with them or even like who or what they might have become. Maybe he loves the wife he married, not the wife he lives with.

Answer 6

This is because of the psyche. Your brain tells you, in your rage, that you are not in love with your partner, even if you know deep down you really are. It could also because your brain knows that if you love something you should let it go, even if your heart wants to hold on, and if it was really meant to be they shall come back for more.

Answer 7

Love isn't the only thing you need to make a marriage work, there are so many things, responsibility,faithfulness, commitment.All of these need be reciprocal, or by both parties,
if absolute happiness isn't achieved by both, I would feel compelled to leave myself, it sounds sad and unreasonable but sometimes it's not only the best thing to do, it's the only thing to do.

Answer 8

Love means to me, dropping you ego. Divorce is not possible where love is. It must be attraction, infatuation or whatever but it can't be love. Love is a very sacred thing and in love there that can't be such mean things.

Answer 9

Because a marriage is a lot more than love and a hut....
One person is a mystery. Two, with an abyss in-between, a prodigious contradiction...

Answer 10

Cuz true Love never Dies..
and he probally Loves her enough where if she wants out he is willing to let her go so she can be happy if she currently isn't and he might hope she comes back one day..
as they saying goes If you Love someone you must set them free,they will come back if it's ment to be.