We have been together 7 months now he is 41 and i am 34 there is alot of stressers in our life. i know he isnt cheating. i have tried spicing things up he just says he is to tired. what can i do?
2006-09-03 05:06:41 · 13 answers · asked by fullheartedgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you at 34 are in your prime he is not
ask him what he wants- he can't be that tired
besides sex is a stress reducer
2006-09-03 05:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is necessarily anything 'wrong' with him, but even for his age, I think once a month is way below average. Maybe he has a physical problem that he is trying to hide by claiming to be too tired, or not interested. Has he had a physical lately? Sexual desire really is different for different people, and believe me, I know from experience how frustrating it can be when your desire is higher than your husbands. Of course my husband is an ex now, but there were other reasons besides that. I think the important thing is to not blame yourself. It sound's like you've done your part as far as 'spicing things up'. You could suggest counseling, and tell him how frustrated you've become. Other than those suggestions, about the only thing I could suggest would be a good vibe. ;)
Best Wishes,
2006-09-03 12:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by sherrie_66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sex once a month is below the normal rate that we should do.. Even my grandpa an 70 year old who married his third wife can do better than that.. Try making him watch porno movie together or strip for him.. If he still not getting horny after that I suggest him to go see a doctor...
2006-09-03 12:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be the stress, but at his age he probably isn't producing much testosterone anymore, have him get checked out by his MD. There are supplements he can take that will help. I wouldn't recommend the synthetic testosterone that the doctor can prescribe though, they turn into raging D@@@'s the first week they get the shot every month.
2006-09-03 12:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's 41 older guys are satified with little sex, thats why i go for the younger ones.not to young 10 years younger max.[30] for your age try around 28-32 they want sex more often.
2006-09-03 12:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stressors contribute a lot to poor sex life. lessen if you must.
good heavens he's not cheating...
you can't go having sex with other guys if sex is the only purpose... no. be true to him.
it'll come on him. i don't know when. but keep up the spicy things you're doing.
2006-09-03 12:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by di_ako_guapo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check for porn addiction. He would still have a drive so he is venting some how. Does he want dirtier things then you enjoy?
Just some things to check/consider.
Minxy
2006-09-03 12:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress is a powerful inhibitor on the male libido.
Find a way to uncoil yourselves, and fast.
2006-09-03 12:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is definitely wrong OR what he wants in a relationship is more than sex afterall you are both matured.
2006-09-03 12:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by ade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably be a good idea for him to have a physical exam by a physician considering his age.
2006-09-03 12:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋