through out my life people have never been too fond of me. i've struggled making friends. i've always felt different from everyone else, and i just don't seem to be able to connect with other people. i recently went away to school and i tried really hard to fit in with the people but it just seems like i'm going to be dealing with the same problems. i also have trouble with girls, they're never that interested in me either. i've been with girls before but they just end up dumping me. i'd really like it if someone could give me advice, or know of anyone like me. i'm not "out there" at all. i dress and look like your everyday 20 year old. i'm totally hygenic, i'm never dirty, and i'm not ugly by any means. i just don't understand. please help, i want to be normal and be able to have a good time annd memorable college experience just like everyone else. i need this.
2006-09-03 05:00:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I would ask those with whom you've experienced a falling out with (girlfriends, classmates, etc.) to find out their opinion of what made them decide to sever their friendship with you.
Perhaps you have just not met people that are compatible with you. You shouldn't give up or think that there is something wrong with you. Do some research to determine what the issues are.
2006-09-03 05:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by fla_dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No to be comical and add insult to injury, but maybe it is charisma. You need to find your Mo Jo. Brighten up and know life always takes dramatic turns. You might end up having a super smart model type girl as a wife. Life is funny like that. And friends are easy to make. Just be a friendly person and you will be known for that. Always a good start. And friends come along in time. Hope this helped. PEACE!
2006-09-04 11:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mitchell B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try too hard to make new friends. Like dont overdo it... Its a turn off. Everyone gets dumped also, youre not the only one. Otherwise we'd all get married in the 3rd grade!
My advice to you for college is to get involved in some kind of extra activity like golf, chess, photography, newsletter, there has to be a million options there at college! But dont over think things! You will drive yourself nutty! Once youre involved in something and have a real drive for it friends will fall into place that have similar interests.
Good luck
2006-09-03 18:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you Fezz from that 70's Show, cause he has the same problems. You just try too hard and don't meet the right kind of people. Just try to be friendly and lay back, don't talk too much and especially don't tell people you want to be friends with this story. You can confide in maybe one person who you deem as close a friend as you wil get and see if they can tell you anything maybe you are doing something you don't even know you are doing. Try some AXE or TAG and see if these draw people to you!
2006-09-03 12:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. PDQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look less at your character and personality, less at your looks. If you make people uncomfortable, they will likely prefer not to spend time with you--just a basic fact. If you are not actively objectionable, consider the possibility that you are too egocentric--a common problem with kids your age.
Also, it's a little too early to decide that nobody likes you, just coming out of the 'shark tank' of high school. To get kicked at that age, in that milieu, is just a matter of vulnerability; they can't resist the figurative smell of blood. Don't take the wounds so much to heart.
The best advice I could give you is twofold.
One, get over it! Sit down and make a list of what you like and don't like about yourself, what you consider good, and not so good. And change the things you can, that will make you more like you think you want to be.
Two, listen more, talk less, and learn to make people happier in your company than out of it. This is fairly easy, really, if you learn to actually notice them, value them and their opinions and feelings, and try to truly treat them as you would like to be treated.
Nothing is so seductive--not in the strictly sexual sense, but that also--as being found desireable, or likable, or admirable, or worthwhile.
2006-09-03 12:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by kaththea s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you shy?? Try to be a little more outgoing. I used to have this problem but I finally made it a point to approach people instead of waiting for them to approach me. I have plenty of friends now but most of them told me that I "look unapproachable" . not sure what that means but maybe you send off a certain vibe that causes people to keep their distance. Some people say, I look mean and snobby but I'm the total opposite.
2006-09-03 12:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation. It was hard untill I decided to accept myself as who I am. I stopped searching for friends, and worrying about what is wrong with me. My life changed completely.Now I have wonderful freinds who supports me and just happy to know that I`m their friend too.
Just be yourself!
2006-09-03 12:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Aida S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself i know how you feel i used to be dorky but i just kept being myself and eventually i became outgoing and now i have tons of friends and my life just cant get any better and of course if god is on your side then you will be just fine and 'With God all things are possible' that is sooo true i prayed and now i am a christian and blessed wiht wonderful parents a healthy life and i have a lot of friends what more could i need???
You know you can answer questions too and get points.
2006-09-03 12:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ugly?
Just kidding, some peole are born with people skills, some aren't. Soon someone will come along and appreciate.
2006-09-03 12:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not alone many people feel this way
but to tell you the truth people don't really hate you or dislike you
they might be just shy to talk to you or to hang out with you.
if people keep acting like your invisible then the're just plain mean
2006-09-03 12:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by JRR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋