Shouldn't most of us accept the way we are, and not worry about perfection, which is unobtainable anyway?
2006-09-03 04:56:27 · 14 answers · asked by In Honor of Moja 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not sure if the word is "satisfied" in my case -- more like resigned. I've been teased all my life because of my size, and I finally realized awhile ago that if someone has a problem with my appearance, it's just that: THEIR problem.
We aren't all going to be a Size 3, nobody's perfect as you so rightly pointed out, and if you don't like looking at me, there are three other directions that you can turn to. In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy my life and do what I want to, irregardless of what someone else might think.
This question does remind me of a limerick, though:
As beauty goes, I'm no star.
There are others more handsome by far.
But my face, I don't mind it
Because I'm behind it. . .
It's the folks out front who get the jar!
2006-09-03 05:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some areas, perfection is not unattainable, at least not anymore.
As little as ten years ago, most people had pretty average looking teeth. It was okay to have a little chip, or discoloration, or shadowing from a silver crown. Today, with all the advances in cosmetic dentistry, teeth are becoming supernaturally white, straight, and well....perfect.
Some might say that's great, but in fact there are many among us who cannot afford this new perfection. Dentistry is expensive, and most insurance plans pay only up to $1000 per year, with no cosmetic dentistry included. A full mouth "fix" of poor teeth can cost upwards of $30,000.
Those who cannot pay the price now find their job and social opportunities limited. Having less than "perfect" teeth is no longer seen as a fact of life and aging, but as a sign of low class and lack of self-care.
Should we accept the way we are? Sure, yes, in an ideal world we would. But this is a world of advances, and each advance brings a price some will not be able to pay while others -- who can afford to pay it -- will reap the benefits. And as always, those who have the money also set the social standards, making it more and more difficult for the rest of us to achieve them.
2006-09-03 05:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cynanon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question Buzz!!! I am satisfied with my appearance. I am an older woman who has had 3 kiddos and managed to keep myself looking good, even with a few extra pounds. I am very secure and still good looking. Now for what makes me insecure....Hmmm. I think I'd have to say that I get insecure that I am older than my mate, and he wants children of his own, that I can't give him. I don't obsess over it, but it is the only thing I can come up with. Otherwise, I don't care what others think or say when it comes to my self worth. If he did choose to move on, I would wish for him all the happiness he could find and many beautiful children to enjoy, because he deserves it and I know he would be an amazing daddy. Great question. Good luck. Nana
2006-09-03 05:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right. Being beautiful can make you feel great about yourself but looking average is probably the best in reality. If you look average your live will be normal. I hate my nose and want to lose some weight but I think I'm a bit obsessed with my looks. Everyone says I'm beautiful and sexy, I know I am too but I want to look perfect. I want to look like the movie stars even though they don't look good in reality. Make-up, air-brushed photos, lipo-sucktion, rhinoplasties, all fake. We need so accept ourselves for the way we are, unless of course one looks less than normal, in that case I believe people have the right to look better without going to extremes of course.
2006-09-03 07:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll look in the mirror from the neck up and think "damn aren't you a good looking woman" but then if I stand and see a full length of my body it just gets me disgusted.
I know my body perception is skewed because when i was younger and weighed 103 pounds i still didn't like my body.
My children say I'm heavy but they don't want me to lose weight because they love the way my tummy feels when they put their head on it.
I guess if my husband said i was gorgeous even with the extra poundage then i would be happier
2006-09-03 05:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by prettymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am and I know no matter how good and handsome you look like if you don't feel it and love yourself it can't work on the others, don't forget must of the good looking people are unsatisfied of their looks, and fined themselves not pretty, self steam is beauty, and try to study and learn you can shin more with your knowledge then your appearance, and for longer time.
2006-09-03 05:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by santa s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck no im not satisfied.. yes, it would be nice if we could ALL accept ourselves, but it doesnt work like that in today's world...
i realize that i can never be like the models or stars on tv, but i have afew things that i wish i could change... i wish my boobs were perky, i wish my tummy and waistline was tight, i wish i didnt have any acne or scars, i wish i had a moviestar nose, i wish i had smaller shoulders... the list goes on ad-infinitum.. it would sure be alot easier if i could just accept myself
2006-09-03 05:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot accept it until i loose the weight I got lately NO NO NO
Never is enough!
2006-09-03 04:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Pearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the weight i gain and cant get most of it out!! if i had the money i would have surgery cause i no im pretty its my weight thats killing me inside and out
2006-09-03 05:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by big&beutifull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the last person...as i get older...its only my mind that lets me down...as long as my parts work im fine with them..
2006-09-03 05:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by if_shehadonlysaid_sorry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋