i am 18 and considering getting pregnant for my bf but i am scared because i am starting my first year in college and would perfer to wait till after i graduate but my bf is persistant and i want to make him happy i love him. i am also conserned he might try without me knowing is it possible for him to mess with the condoms??? recently 3 condoms have broke???
2006-09-03 04:55:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i also really want to be a vet that hat i am in college for he wants to be a mechanic his reasoning is that he can afford it.
2006-09-03 04:57:58 · update #1
i dont no how to tell him no i never have
2006-09-03 05:01:05 · update #2
get on the pill. don't leave your birth control up to him. be responsible and protect yourself.
i think i would dump him and find a real man, someone who isn't going to pressure you into doing things you aren't ready to do.
2006-09-03 05:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bec 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Get put on the pill. He may be jealous you are going to be college educated and he is not. He may fear you will find a better guy at college. Reassure him you will not, if that's the case. Don't get pregnant because he wants you too. It is a lot of responsibility, and difficult to do in college. I can be done, but only if you are super motivated. Plus, did he take all the costs into account when saying he can pay for it? Can he pay for the childcare too, not just diapers, formula, clothes, dr.'s. It's expensive. You can't always be taking a baby to class with you now can you? Trust me on this. Hindisght is 20/20. When I was in your situation, by bf was a mechanic with a GED, and I was in college. I ended up having a baby before I graduated, but continued to work and get my Master's Degree. It was difficult and trying, but we are still together now with 2 lovely children. I love my children, but things would have been so much cheaper, and I would have taken out a lot less in student loans (including loans to pay for child care), if we had just been more responsible. Please take the birth control in your own hands. Trust me.
2006-09-03 12:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Amber D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SERIOUSLY? You are concidering getting pregnant when you just said you are not ready? # 1 if he loves you enough to have a child with you he would ask you to marry him first! #2 Having a baby is a full time job, there would be no time for school at all. #3 I would not want to be with someone who would do such a low down thing like try to get me pregnant without me knowing! If 3 condoms have broke, that is no accident! PLEASE do not have a baby until you get your thoughts and plans together. You are only 18, you have PLENTY of baby making years ahead of you. Why be in a hurry. Take time to be young. You only have a few years to be young and free. There are plenty of years to be grown,make babys, and be tied down. Just give it time, go to school and see what you feel like after you graduate and have a career so you can raise a kid. A kid needs your undivided attention and if you are having to debate if you want to get pregnant or not then I know you are not ready for a kid. PLEASE THINK ABOUT THIS! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-03 13:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Lily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to tell you straight up and I am not trying to be mean. If you don't want a baby right now then that should be it. You are the one that will have to carry it, you are the one that will have to take care of it. It will be you that will do it all and if you don't want that responsibility right now then you have to tell him. I understand that you love him and want to make him happy but he needs to understand that you aren't ready for that and if he loved you at all he would get that. You are young and have plenty of time for kids later on in life. Lets be honest here. Say you do get pregnant with his child and you guys break up, then what??? It will be you taking care of a child you really didn't want in the first place. Tell him you don't want a baby right now and if he breaks up with you for this then you should be thankful.
Yes, he can mess with the condoms. My best advice is double up on birth control, take the pill or something else.
2006-09-03 12:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by couriousk 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter what your boyfriend wants, you are the one that has to carry and give birth to this child. You should follow your dream and go to school to be a vet! That is great!!!!! :) If you have a baby now it will be so hard to achieve that. It doesn't sound like your boyfriend really has a clue what having a child is about, sit him down and tell him that you are not ready and he needs to stop pushing. If he loves you, he will stay and wait until you are married. Otherwise, things happen for a reason and someday you and your mate will mutually decide to have a baby. Take care!
2006-09-03 12:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait My younger sister had a baby at nineteen for her boyfriend. She had been with him since high school but 6 months after the child was born he went because i needed a life. Once you have a child you will never have that option of walking out the door.
Keep in college so you can save and buy all that stuff for the future you will need. Go on holiday. If he loves you he will wait.
Whats good for the goose is good for the gander. For a change let him show you how much he loves you by waiting a while.
That grass is never greener on the other side. Go on Web pages about young/single parents. Look how hard it can be.
P.S Pill
2006-09-03 12:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
don't do anything you don't want to do. Your body, your choice. If he really loved you he would look into what YOUR best interest is and not only his own. Personally, I believe he wants you to have a baby so he can trap you, it sounds like maybe with him being a mechanic and you wanting to get a docterate degree he's afraid of what you'll do when you realize that society puts you in a higher "class" than him. He's insecure about your relationship and wants there to be a reason that you cannot leave him.
I could be wrong but something tells me that this is a good assumption.
2006-09-03 12:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by yello_flower 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT give in. Boyfriends will try anything. Even if you love him, this is your body. Get an education first.
Don't get pregnant for a guy's sake. You BOTH need to want it, or you could regret it for the rest of your life.
If you think he's messing with the condoms, bring your own. If you two live together, or he can get his hands on it some other way, take the pill.
Also, try a rational discussion. Nothing beats a rational discussion.
2006-09-03 12:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Look obvisoulsy you aren't ready. You are just going to have to tell him that you aren't ready. I mean once you have a child it becomes all about the child. And that means if you have to put off school then thats what you'd have to do. And you don't want to...just wait to have a baby until your ready. Trust me I have two kids and it is hard to go to school and feel like your being a good mom.
If he is going to do something like tamper with a condom...get on some birth control. he doesn't have to know either.
2006-09-03 13:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be responsible for your own body. If you don't want to have a baby, you should take control of your own birth control. Having a baby and going to school is expensive and tiring. I would tell your bf that it's just easier to wait. your eggs aren't going anywhere and you're only 18. Finish school and get a job with insurance to pay for the baby before you think about having one just for fun first. GEEZ!
2006-09-03 11:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Annie Hightower 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
honey.... let me tell you this much.... you will NEVER finish your degree if you have a baby.... or at least not in a long while.... when the baby comes it will be your first priority and you will think school can wait.... as for your boy friend honey at your age he want always be your boy friend.... go get the pill... don't tell him you are taking it and he want be no more the wiser..... don't have a baby now... you wont regret it but if you do you most certainly might regret not waiting.... please i know its hard and people have to live and learn but you should always listen and take in account of people older then you,.... they / we know some things and sometimes we are right about them cuz we have been there and done that.....
2006-09-03 12:17:43 · answer #11 · answered by panda 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋