2006-09-03 04:33:43 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are asking this question here, then it's bothering you. Did you not know this before you were married? If you did, now is not the time to concern yourself with it. Forget it, be happy and love your wife. As long as these 22 lovers came before your engagement and wedding, let it go. If you didn't know this fact before you married her, it's still irrelevant. What are you going to do? Waste precious time worrying about it? Consider this line from a Jewel song I love..."Please love, let's take no impartial vow, let all fall away that's not crucial now." This isn't crucial now. Again, move on...love her. Be happy. You must have been better than all of those 22 lovers combined. : ) She married YOU.
2006-09-03 04:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even though something are better left untold sometime they still come to our attenton.However i don't see why this should be bothering you.It you truly love your wife it really doen't matter how many person she slept with.She is married to you and has dedicated her life,her time to you and only you.She is not with any of those people that she slept with,They we in here past and that is where they will stay.She is with you,he husband,her lover,the love of her life .She chose you because she wanted to spend the rest of her life with you and only you.Does it make her less lovable ?Does it make her different from any other woman?.No! it does not She is still the same person you fell in love with,the same person who help you get through everyday of your life.Beside how is it ok for guys to sleep around with 20-40 girls before they got married?Why is that not a problem for us women.We accept you the way you are.Don't treat her any different she is still your wife no matter what anyone says.Love your wife for who she is!Don't dislike her for what she did!A woman is entitle to enjoy a single life before she gets married.
2006-09-03 05:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by love me like me hate me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IS THAT A LOT?? Are you kidding? I am constantly amazed at the blase attitude people have about sex and various partners these days. Whatever happened to the philosophy that having sex [making love] is a very special gift.. and that you don't simply hand it out because it feels good? Whatever happened to the idea that someone who sleeps with a lot of different people is considered a whore or a slut? In my thinking, that is a person with no self respect or consideration for something that SHOULD be beautiful and wonderful and ultimately special between people who love one another.. TRULY love one another.. for a lifetime.. not by today's standards where 'love' seems to be something that lasts until something better comes along. Is 22 too many for a 24 year old GIRL?? YES!! WAY too many.
2006-09-03 04:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
HOLY COW!!! 22 lovers by the time she was 24?? Um. yeah that's a lot. No offense, but it sounds like she was a hoe-bag.
I'm 27 and I've only had 3 including my husband.
2006-09-03 04:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The way I see it, don't ask, don't tell....If you had such a problem with it why did you marry her in the first place....Most men would be looked at as heros for "bedding" that many women. Why should a woman be chastized (sp) for doing the same thing?! Pretty messed up if you ask me.
2006-09-03 05:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you get right down to it, who cares. I could never ask my husband that question, because its none of my business, that kinda stuff happened before I knew him. I did however ask that we BOTH take an AIDS, test before we got married. I think its an important test, that should be mandatory, before a marriage licience is issued, especially in this day & age.
2006-09-03 05:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
that's a whole lot of people to sleep with by the age of 24.... Wow... Not a good thing... Has she been tested...? My husband was the first and only person I've ever been with... I've been with him for 9 years now...
2006-09-03 04:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by secret agent lady 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a huge number. I had 0 when I married my husband.
2006-09-03 04:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually...that seems impossible not to mention just kind of blahhhh.... She probably lied. If she lied then you should ask yourself 'What would make her lie about something like that?' If she didn't lie then you should ask yourself 'Why would she change lovers like underwear?' Its kind of freaky. No pun intended.
2006-09-03 04:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
These experiences made her who she is today...the person you love. I wouldn't be too concerned with the past. and as long as she doesn't add to the number things will be fine...
2006-09-03 05:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋