Is it possible to really not want what you have been fighting for. We both want to make it work but we both feel like we are just going through the motions. Do we just divorce? Our lifestyles will drastically change. Do we suck it up and stay for the kids? ( 2 girls 3,6)
2006-09-03 04:32:44 · 11 answers · asked by lookingforanswers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have been to counciling, we have tried seperation. What else can we try?
2006-09-03 04:39:24 · update #1
You know when you first get married life is great like your on top of the world. Then you start a family start having children you have less quality time for the two of you.Things start to change your feelings go in opposite direction and you never take the time to sit down and talk about the little things. The next thing you know the little things turn to big things.Then you both are sitting there like two bulls ready to go head to head.
A happy marriage takes work and a part of both to make it work.You two can still work it out just mend what is eating at you both spend a little more time together.Really what you need is a whole weekend off somewhere just the two of you let the past go start on the future. Be happy smiles!!
2006-09-03 04:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are you reconciling? Often times when situations have risen and you drifted apart because of such, and then you want to stay and make things work, it will feel like its just going through the motions. However, if you truly love each other, you will find a way to make things work. It just takes time to get where you once were. Do I think you should suck it up and stay for the kids? Yes, but only if you truly love each other. Often times things will make a marriage stronger. No, if you will only be staying for the kids and they see constant arguing, fighting and hatred. You don't want your children to see that and have those memories. I wish you the best of luck. And remember, you and your husband are not the only ones being affected by these decisions you make.....your children are too.
2006-09-03 11:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by starling_night614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you've tried everything. Do you want this relationship? Are your kids going to feel the tension between the two of you? I tried staying in my marriage "for the kids" and it doesn't work. My kids have even told me that they were upset at the time but they are all glad we did not stay together. I lived through my parents bad marriage and I was so glad when they divorced. Kids sometimes tend to blame themselves for their parents problems and that's not good. Your children will probably need counseling no matter what road you choose to take. I wish you the best!
2006-09-03 11:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question!!! That is what i am dealing with and would love to see what peoples response is to it. Do you stay just because of the kids, conveniences of living???
2006-09-03 11:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried introducing yourself to him and dating, you know starting all over? Ya'll met and fell in love and got married right? What is it about him that made you fall in love? Listen to your heart, the quiet voice, and not your head, the loud voice
2006-09-07 11:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by suzanne_sauls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK A LOT SEE WHATS GOING IN YOUR LIEFS TAKE TIME WITH AND FOR THE KIDS THY NEED BOTH OF YOU SO GET IT GOING SOON
2006-09-03 11:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, divorce and have a new happy life.
2006-09-03 12:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take one day at a time and get reacquainted with one another, and Please don't' rehash the past!!!!! good luck, really!!! and congratulations i hope it works out
2006-09-03 12:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know whAT YOUR GOING THRU MY OPIonon is if you can leave or make him leane your children shouldn't have to see you suffer
2006-09-03 16:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew, im sorry but.....
I do wish you the best.
2006-09-03 11:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by teddybar67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋