WHY am i treated like a total dirt?

Question

my b4 is torturing me.he is 41 and i'm 24.last night i went for a movie with my sister.it's a 3 hour movie.i told my bf i was going to watch it with my sis.he's a very suspicious man.b4 the movie ended, he started calling and text'in me from his phone. i cudnt answer coz i was in the cinema and i didnt know he'd call.when i came back and tried to call him he shut off his phone.then at 3am-6am he tried claling me when most humans wud be sleeping.then he text me and said i was sleeping with another man and i'm a BIT**.he's cursing me and just coz i didn't answer his call he's looking so down on me. even a dog wud have a better treatment. i've been with him for 2 years and he had always treated me like this. he calls me a bit**, we dont speak for 1 week then we get back and he says he sorry,he didn't mean it. then the cycle starts again. i have to cry sumtimes to prove to him i am clean but he still keep bullying me. is this love?why is this man torturing me?he even doubts my virginity.

Answer 1

He sounds insecure. For him to be this old and still dealing with what are basically high school problems doesn't bode well. If he won't get counseling, I'd seriously think about breaking up with him permanently if I were you.

Answer 2

Okay well he thinks you will leave cause he doesnt feel worthy of having you as a gf. He might have had someone before do this to him. He is definatley mental abusive. I would break it off. Once you see that realationships are not like that you will realize that you are actaully happy. No one should get that jealous all the time. Plus you were with you sister of all people to be with. It would be different if you went with a couple of friends.

Answer 3

Girl, he needs to go. If he dares to hit u, call da police. He dont love u he just feels down so he wants 2 make u feel worse. He needs 2 go. He dont love u. Nobody hurts those whom they love. I am sorry if notin makes since, i am spanish and i sumtimes I cant put my words 2gether. But u need 2 leave him. Someone out there is the man of ur dreams who will love u and respect u. Peace

Answer 4

get rid of this control freak before he destroys you he will keep you a prisoner from your family and friends no it,s not love you have to escape this is a very dangerous person he,s had his freadom but he does not want you to have yours and besides you are a lot younger than him he treats you as though you are his property which you are nobody,s property when you manage to get rid of him just hang around with family and friends try not to be alone for to long he is only with you because you are younger than him and you are something of a status symbol he,s showing off saying hey look what i,ve got a young attractive female and she does as i say because if not i will beat her and she will come crawling back because she can,t do without me because i,m so great
but he,s not you deserve better and can do better the sooner you get rid the better you will feel trust me i know i,ve gone through it personally good luck and be safe

Answer 5

If you have to question if this is love, then it isn't. Love is something that takes you over, you are so happy that you feel like, well you just can't explain it with words, but you will definitely know when you are in it. I know that if you leave him you will feel lonely, but look at it from this aspect, if you marry him and have children, how will he treat them and what will they learn from him. Will he be willing to sacrifice himself for the better welfare of his children and wife? (Things like getting paid to shoveling pig poop to make sure his children have enough food to eat.) Will you in 10 years regret not waiting for the man that made you feel like a princess? I guarantee you that if the abuse continuous, you will become depressed, and with depression there comes many different avenues of self destruction. You could either loose tons of weight and wither away to die or gain tons of weight and be miserable. Either way you lose all self worth and sink into farther depths. It is hard enough in life, even if you have married a wonderful man, to keep self worth and strength. From gaining weight with child bearing, raising children, being a good mom, wife, lover, friend, and then managing a home and yard, not to mention if you work outside of the home. You do not need to add an additional stone to the load. It would be healthy for you to just say goodbye and stand tall, there are plenty of men out there who would love to date you. My husband always says, for men it is so hard to find a woman because she will turn he nose up at him, but for a woman it is easy to find a man because most men wouldn't turn away from any woman.
...PS. This is Faith's husband sending a message to your boyfriend - You are 41 and she is only 24 - WOW! The least you could do is let her live her life a little. If she is still coming home to you, then you should feel lucky to have what you have. Don't keep pushing her away with your little antics. YOU WILL REGRET IT...

Answer 6

Honey you don't want to get into a situation like this. It will only get worse. I would end it while you can . That is abuse, and you don't deserve that. you need to find someone that will respect what you are, not put you down. I hope you will find someone that you deserve, and will treat you like you should be treated with love and respect. I wish you all the happiness in the world. God Bless.

Answer 7

no this is not right he probley feels insecure because of his age,and hes worried he will lose you to a younger man,listen i am married to a 41 year old and i am 28 and people dont think age makes a diffrence,yes it does!he is contantly up my butt and worried i will leave him all the time and i have never given him a reason too.he didnt act like that at first but when he hit 40(cause we got married when he was 37 an i was 23)put that dude in check and tell him to stop or your trading him in for a younger model!!!lol good luck

Answer 8

there are several things, he himself coul be cheating, or it could simply be a twenty four year old virgin is unheard of these days, and he might be very insecure and thinking that for some reason you dont want to give him some and you're out with someone else. i suggest you leave. but keep in mind that he may have been hurt or lied to before. i had a girl seriously mess with my mind and it took two ruined relationships after that two trust again.

Answer 9

f*$@k him girl if you can even go out with your sister then what can you do. Your family is all you got treasure them. Dump him and find you some good friends that are girls that you can confide in and be your self. Have respect for yourself and you'll feel much better. Remember there are so many other good men out there keep looking and you'll find them. You can reach me at amerisegennivie@ yahoo if you need more encouragement. Becca

Answer 10

DUMP HIM FAST!!!! He is a COMPLETE as*shole. You can do much better. This is not love. He is a very insecure man. You do not need his verbal abuse and the crazy phone calls! End this relationship and do not take him back . This is not a good relationship for you to be in. Move on!